Fear and Worry! What if I told you most of the time, we are unaware that is the motive behind the madness? Just this weekend, I was having anxiety, fear, stress, and all kinds of emotions I was trying to stuff, being determined to not have it control me.
While it’s admirable to take ahold of our mind, quote scriptures, and tell fear that it’s a liar, the truth is, our brain can be a very complicated place.
I found out my Mom broke her hip, she’s in the hospital now, and it’s 90 miles away. The weather was cold, snowing and creating icy roads, and my husband was dealing with snow removal at our own house, and at his place of work. My road did not get plowed, and my tiny car could not navigate the road to go help Mom’s husband.
There were other issues as well, such as my dog having very cold paws in the bitterly cold sub-zero tempuratures, and a host of other issues, I won’t go into right now, but for starters, I had fears coming at me about my husband’s pain and wondering what we’d do if he had to go to the doctor over it. I also wondered how we were going to get Mom home, if things did not get better in the weather-realm.
Like a good Christian Girl, I put it all in God’s hands.
I decided to make a pot of soup for my husband, a type of soup he’d requested, not too long ago. My reason for this was to do the only thing I could do to make someone’s life better that day, “Make a pot of soup.”
I”m a woman of Faith, so I did not believe for a minute, I was fretting.
Deep down however, I must have been fretting, and I know this, because I lashed out at my husband when he didn’t compliment me on the soup. Was it because i was greedy for compliments? No! After some prayer and reflection time,
God made me aware that fretting was the awful culprit behind me lashing out at him, (for not saying the soup was good). When the bible says “Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; Do not fret—itonly causes harm.” (Psalm 37:8), Don’t we tend to focus on those first two words in the passage, (anger, and wrath?). I know I do.
The truth is, just a bit of fretting can lead to hostility and barking at the ones we love, for almost no apparent reason, at all. I wonder how many people we meet in life who are cranky, crabby, lash out at us, act rude toward us, or even just drive badly at times, are fretting over something and lashing out as a result?
As Christians, sometimes we are too hasty to say they have no fruit, or maybe they aren’t even a christian at all! We can be quick to judge, not realizing someone has a lot on their mind, and may not behave in a way that’s “up to par.’
In any case, words like, “I’m sorry, I had a lot on my mind, I didn’t mean to lash out at you,” are good and healing words to say, (once we realize what has happened.).
Sometimes everyone worries a little bit. We don’t mean to, it’s just our mind starts to run away with us. We try to plan for “What if this happens, or what if that happens?” Our Sense of responsiblity can quickly turn to worry, and before we know it, we’re acting a little short-tempered with others.
I think just realizing what was happening was the cure (for me that day!). Don’t you love how the truth can make us free? With Love and hopes for your good (fret-free) day. -Laura Grace, Author, Grace to Grow, Grace to the Rescue, Dysfuctional people.