Those Problems you Face……..(and frustrations)

Tearing your Hair Out? Frustrated today? Let me ask you something, if tearing some hair out would solve the problem, Would you do it? I know I sure would!

Have you ever been in strife with someone over a fundamental issue? I sure have.

Here is the definition of Strife: Angry or bitter disagreement over fundamental issues. Conflict. God says not to do it.

We disagree about politics, how to raise children, how to run the church. Strife gets into marraige, relationships, friendships. Strife is everywhere! And it is doing great harm, to the people involved in it.

The more we disagree on, the more likely we will have strife and chaos. I was listening to a sermon yesterday about “submitting to one another.” How Does that work, if we hold every one of our opinions so dear that we will never bend, never to listen to someone else’s viewpoint, and never back down?

In Fact, James says: “But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.

And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.” James 3

OH, I see! “Blessed are the Peacemakers!” We are now back to Matthew 5, and Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount.

So, how does this mysterious, yet Holy Peace Happen, without compromising our dearly held beliefs?

Very often (in the interest of Peace) I just keep my mouth shut. I can vent (to a friend) I can pray, I can re-assess my beliefs and decide if they are truly worth fighting for.

This is what I do to try to get the Anger and Strife OUT of my conversation.

I look at my motives. Why am I really arguing about this? Is it really necessary? Am I really helping anyone? I will not back down about my beliefs that were revealed to me by God (His Word) but I do not have to “Make Anyone”agree with me either. He does the convicting. The Convincing. He is God.

How Do you rid yourself of anger? What makes you angry (and why?). Do you have control issues? Fear? Is your anger truly righteous? These are things we need to find out. (Seek, and you will find?)

Do we have to be world changers? On the contrary, we were called to be seed-sowers and waterers of God’s Word. That means look for some “Good soil” to plant in. No strife. Even God will not “Force us” To change our mind…….

Personally, I don’t like to live in strife. I would rather walk away, take a drive, be by myself, and have long talks with God. There are some people however, who seem to thrive on it.

My suggestion is, if you are angry and want to strive, Let it go, before you have a heart attack, high blood pressure, or wind up with road rage.

People who are full of strife (and envy) are not the healthiest people on Earth. You can win an argument, but lose the war. You don’t have to win. You don’t even have to prove you are right.

Fools give full vent to their Anger. Righteous People look for a chance to plant (and water) Gods’ Truth.

If your advice is so great, (and of God) people who seek it as treasure will find you. If they don’t believe HIS truths are a treasure, they probably won’t listen to you anyway.

What is there to strive about? Nothing! Be at peace with what you believe, until the time comes you are not, and seek God’s wisdom about it, and ask for more information. Be part of the solution.

PS: Not being at Peace with your own beliefs, is an indicator you might need to do more seeking.


Don’t let them cheat you out of your prize…..

Vain Philosphy (by Laura Grace)

Take heed lest there will be anyone taking you captive through philosophy and empty deceit, according to the tradition of men, according to the principles of the world and not according to Christ. Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.” -Colossians 2:8

Assuming what scripture means, quoting things without knowing how they are supposed to be applied, generalizing and assuming to understand what “the Love Walk” really means.

One of the worst things to realize is when you come to understand a lot of things that were taught to you were not the words of the Holy Spirit to YOU personally. (#1) and #2 that well-meaning bible teachers taught you wrong and you taught other people wrong because of it.

Here’s one that was taught to me “That Only certain people” have discernment. We all can and should have discernment. For years I thought I didn’t have any, and had to rely on someone else for it. Here is another: Churches will say “if you are here God sent you here!” How can that be? How do they know this? It’s a nice thought but not always true, and it can hinder you from following after the Holy Spirit if you let that go into your heart.

There are some enemies God will say to show love and others he will say TURN AWAY. Some he will say help them others he will say “Let them alone” For awhile or possibly for good. satan uses vain philosphy to trick you into NOT walking after the Spirit! Galatians says to walk by the Spirit- and you are not under law.

We want recipes because it is EASIER than taking the ingredients God gave you in his word- and baking the cake HE tells you to make. We want formats, to be on auto-pilot because it is EASIER and less scary than following after God.

We make mistakes and use it as an excuse to go be like everyone else because we missed it. God says “GET UP AND TRY AGAIN!” He doesn’t want us eternal babies, having to have someone else wiping the snot off our nose and carrying us around in a backpack or pushing us in a stroller! It takes guts to learn to walk in the Spirit you will Fall down, scrape your knee and say ouch. Now, stop letting anyone cheat you with their vain philosphies and religious platitudes. Jesus paid the price for your mistakes! Like a good parent, God will pick you up and help you try again.


The Testimony of the Little Pink Car…..

2014 Chevy Sonic Purchased in ND

Car Testimony:

God prompted me to post this so here goes.

In 2014 we were making good money in ND and my Jeep started to fall apart. It needed a tire rod, Had a lot of miles, I didn’t trust it on long trips anymore. I LOVE Jeeps so Tim said I could get another one. I wanted a Jeep Liberty. We went shopping one was 17,000 and high miles and didn’t ride nice. Another one when we got there the guy promised to hold it, but did not (I offered money down)

We had one frustration after the other, and In my heart I knew that vehicle was overpriced for what it was. People have always said “God wants you to have the desire of your heart” But I’m not sure I was aware of what the desire of my heart REALLY WAS. My brain wanted a Jeep Liberty I thought they were cool. I thought I would ‘Feel cool” driving one…..

I also had a fear of small cars because my dad called them “death traps” and never wanted me to have one. After the last Jeep debacle we stopped at a dealership I had said “I GIVE UP LORD” I guess I’ll fix my Jeep and be content.” …..

We walk into this dealership, and see this pink car marked down from 19,000 to $14,000, brand new, and 7000 miles on it only. It had pink lipstick on it Underlining the price.

The guy said ‘It’s a nice car” I said “I don’t wanta puddle-jumper” He said “drive it”..…..

I drove it and I was amazed! It had so much power and get up and go! More so than any vehicle I’d ever owned. We bought it I felt like God was saying “yes yes yes” (God my Father who isn’t afraid of little cars)

I have driven this car almost 100,000 miles now it went to 103,000 today. I have put 1000 in it only for a timing belt, we did the brakes, it needed a battery. 100,000 miles and never once had to use the warranty for anything!

It does great in bad weatherm it gets almost 38 mpg on the highway……today a clerk from the gas station came out and said “I just have to ask you, did you buy that car cause it’s CUTE or because of the mileage?

I said “Neither’ and told him the story.

And that my dears, is the story of how my Father knows best! And he is so kind to me! with Love, Laura

1 John abiding · abundant life

Our Purpose, and the purpose of the lunch box

Having Purpose: The Lunchbox.

I bought this lunch box a couple of years ago, thinking my Mom and I could use it on our trips to Great Falls.

I remember telling her about it and she said “oh that’s great!” But she has been unable to travel with me so I almost packed it away or gave it away….I thought I knew the purpose of the lunch box, but I did not.

My husband was working here in town when I bought it, and could come home for lunch. I had no idea he would wind up working 40 miles away and need this insulated lunch box for his new work station. It seems so dumb but my heart rejoiced when he said I’d have to pack his lunches!

I already had the perfect container for it.

These are the kinds of things I notice in my everyday life, how God sees not just the purpose of the lunch box, but my purpose as well. We make plans as he has his own plan for our lives.

“Father, please help us understand our purpose in you. In Jesus’ name amen.

They thought Jesus came to rule and reign, only his closest friends understood what he was up to. And even at that, they did not fully realize until after it was all over, and he had been raised from the dead. God said to Moses:

But indeed for this purpose I have raised you up, that I may show My power in you, and that My name may be declared in all the earth” Exodus 9:16


The Pity Party……

Psalm 88: 14 Why, O LORD, do You reject me? Why do You hide Your face from me?…”

I had a short Pity Party today, not a very long one. It involved some tears, a few reeses’ peanut butter cups, 2 cookies and some staring at the wall for a time. Nobody was impressed, certainly not me. I had my reasons. Many of my friends would say they were good reasons. But that doesn’t change the fact that pity parties do not help.

After awhile I looked up some meme’s under the category “Pity Party” and was amazed at what I saw. Apparently, hundreds and thousands of people besides me have had one, chastized others for having one, or sat around inventing meme’s about them. I even found a song about it.

By the time ate the treats, walked around, and read the meme’s, Having a Pity Party didn’t seem like such a hot idea.

See, I like to write about overcoming. I love to share how I’ve overcome so you can overcome.

But there are days even I have a struggle doing that.

Elijah had one of those days, when he prayed to die. “But he himself went a day’s journey into the wilderness, and came and sat down under a broom tree. And he prayed that he might die, and said, “It is enough! Now, LORD, take my life, for I am no better than my fathers!” 1 Kings 19:1-4.

I’m sure a lot of great theologians have talked about why Elijah got that depressed. He isn’t here to tell us, so I”m going to guess having Jezebel threaten to kill him after he did a big Faith showdown on Mt Carmel (and saw victory) was just too hard to take. I think He must have realized at that moment there would always be trials, for the rest of his life.

That’s kind of how I was feeling today, tired of trials, day after day, fighting the fight of faith and wanting to just give up.

It’s not what we should do, but we just feel like doing it, sometimes.

The truth is, we CAN give up if we want to. You have that freedom. LIke the child who lays down in the store, refusing to go any further because they can’t have the cereal they wanted, we can choose to pout for a time. We look silly while doing it, we get nothing for our efforts, and God is not impressed.

I kind of picture him saying, “Are you done now?” (Looking at me with concern and hope that I’m over it.)

Yes, he loves us so much! (He really does). When we are ready to talk about how to really solve things permanently, make some changes that lead to different outcomes, and learn to be more content within ourselves, God is going to be right there with great ideas for us. “Father, forgive me for settling for a pity party when I could have had your wisdom sooner……

“I ask you to give me wisdom on what to do next Father God. Help me make choices that lead to fruitfulness, Happiness, Joy and laughter. In My heart, I know this is what you want for me. In Jesus’ name. Amen”

By the way, God showed up- and had another assignment for Elijah.


The desire of your heart

What is the desire of your heart? To be Rich? Go on trips? Be important?

People often quote this scripture, and come up with their own definition of what it means to “delight in the Lord.”

Let’s be real here: We want God to grant us what we want, and we want it now. We reason he has the power to do whatever he wants, and he could truly bless us if he wanted to (making all of our dreams come true!).

We all love movies where the Genie grants the three wishes, and secretly hope God will do the same.

Yesterday as I was praying I was STRUCK with how much God really loves me. I was praying and this came out “If I asked my friend to borrow a cup of sugar she would give it to me gladly” How much more Father are you waiting to give us what we need/desire/request? He knows when we need some relief, and I gotta say there are certain things I always KNOW God will do. I want to share Laura’s thoughts on this passage today, one I have looked at and studied often:

“James 4:3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.” NIV

It is not wrong to enjoy things. To eat out. To go on trips. I have found however in my walk with God, he often delays these things until I don’t care anymore And HE is enough. This is his discipline in action, this is his love for his sons and daughters. I have often been amazed by how many beautiful blessings God has given to me, after I didn’t think I cared anymore.

This IS Love- that he makes sure we have our priorities straight. Because honestly it would not be love from him to help us become addicted to pleasure and in the process, lose our relationship and intimacy with him. ❤ I see the Love……….❤

And honestly, do you want someone loving you because of what you do for them, or do you want them just to love you?


Love can be expensive…….

What love costs us…….by Laura Grace ❤ I feel led to share something today and yes it will have the word of God in it.

The bible says God is not unjust to forget your labor of love, and what you do IN HIM is never in vain (1 Corn 15:58) Which implies that what you do that was not IN HIM might be in vain.

Love costs us, and sometimes it costs us big. It might be financial, it might be forgiving and praying for someone who harmed us.

God has both called me and chosen me, not only to evangelize and get people to Christ but one of the biggest ways he uses me is to get people back to him- who have been deeply hurt.What hurts me (as a minister) is when people feel they need to take endless beatings in the name of love, otherwise they are not walking in love.

Also what bothers me, is this is idea that people never do anything to us, it’s just the devil.

The devil shows up in spiritual form and we can rebuke him and cast him down, bind him up and remind him he is under our feet.

People also can be (unfortunately) trained to do things the devils’ way from an early age. This is why the bible talks about putting away wrath, clamor, get rid of bitterness (and so on) ……They can be clouds without water and spots at your love feast (book of Jude). ON SOME have mercy God says, snatching them out of the fire, hating even their garments defiled by the flesh.

Jesus was not a woosy. He told people in no uncertain terms who was going to be blessed, and who was not. (Look at Matthew 5).

He did not blanket people who hated him (or his words) with his everlastiing blessings. He went to the cross but he was not everyone’s “whipping boy.”

In fact, he made people very angry by pointing out their sin (and exposing it).

So yes, the Holy Spirit does the convicting if they indeed choose to be convictable, but many harden their hearts.

In the last days (it says) some (no matter what happens) will curse God and blame him for everything. (Rev 9:20).I felt it necessary to have this little talk with you about Love.

We love God first. We love his Word. That, alone, will seperate you from many. He will show you who to bless and anoint.

He makes it clear taking care of our brethren (others who love God) is first, then we go out and show and demonstrate love to the poor, the orphans, the fatherless…..

Love will cost you. Financially, and in every other way.We are entering a time of the wise virgin. (That is another sermon)

So I am going to ask you PLEASE seek God about all this.Love him first and don’t wear yourself out trying to show love to everyone, until there is nothing left of you. Ask him for wisdom.

If I have seen one thing over and over the past few years, it’s satan using love AGAINST God’s people and beating them to death with it. He is the great accuser.

Pray with me if you wish “Father in the name of Jesus, show me what walking in love means to me personally. I praise you when I am IN YOU I am never condemned. I command the voice of the enemy to cease and desist NOW in Jesus’ name!

I do hear from God he is my Father” Thank you Father for showing me personally- by your Spirit how YOU want me to define love and walk in love. I forsake all religious teachings right now Father and ask to be in living covenant with you. in Jesus’ name. amen.” those who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God. For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship.”

-Romans 8:14

Stop being afraid of messing up! God will lead you, He promised. –Laura Grace


on Being Vexed, Angry or Upset

I want to share that this past year took its’ toll on me.

We can declare all the power scriptures we want to, pray every day, love God, pray to lover others, be faithful, and still wind up with frazzled nerves.

It does not mean there is something wrong with you, necessarily.

What it can mean however, is you are listening to the wrong things.

Here is the truth: We who are Christians know we should meditate on what is true and lovely and great report. We know we should meditate on scripture.

In day-to-day life, we deal with opinions, input from others, “the news” and yes, even people who cause harm to us, and refuse to acknowledge what they have done.

In an effort to be “Not so heavenly-minded” that I am no earthly good, there are times I listen to far too much of the human realm, and not enough from the heavenly realm.

If we stay too spiritual, how can heaven touch earth? If we are too earthly, how can heaven (in us) touch earth? It’s a balancing act for certain.

If I get into an argument with someone, I lose my opportunity to plant good seeds.

They are no longer listening to me, so my arguing and fussing is all in vain.

I don’t feel better when it’s done, and the other person is un-affected as well.

Therefore, I make it my aim to take a breath, say a prayer, and remain calm.

This is the only way I have hope of making a difference, and planting good seeds.

I am pondering these scriptures today:

“The vexation of a fool is known at once, but the prudent ignores an insult.”

Proverbs – 22:16

“A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.”

Proverbs 29:11

“Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.”

 James 1:19

Getting angry with others, letting them have it between the eyeballs, or flying off the handle about the injustices we see will not change anything. Fighting fire with fire often makes a bigger fire.

We think we are tough if we defend ourselves, but the truth is, the strongest person is the one who learns discipline and resists the temptation to fly off the handle.

With Love, Laura Grace


Is it better to see? Or not see?

You are blessed if you can see. There are many who cannot see what you see….But the trouble is that the more you can see the harder it is to walk in love sometimes. I can remember when I could not see certain things & People told me I was Niave’ and they were right, I was! I didn’t like hearing it at the time, and it made me angry. I had a friend one time say “I guess it’s like the blinders on those horses, they can’t see what is going on or they will get skittish” She was frustrated with me, trying to get me to see (what I could not see) and it took years before I sincerely went to God and said “OKAY I want to the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth!” When you pray this way, you may see things you didn’t want to see. It may upset you, make you cry……..But honestly, the pain of seeing is not worse than the pain of being in the dark and being deceived……

But blessed are your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear.” Matthew 13:15 NIV


Healthy Things to do instead of fighting about Politics and Pandemics…..

At some point, I had to realize, yes, I have been upset for some unhealthy reasons this year. One of them was politics. Another, the pandemic.

How many of us, I wonder, have been caught in the crossfire of arguments over politics, the pandemic, whether we should or should not wear masks, and a host of other volatile issues, this past year.

I recently went on my site and posted a video, in which I said, “Yes, this is still the perfect time to Grow.”

A woman from New York City swiftly ordered my book and said,

“I just ordered your book please pray for me.”

Honestly, this year has been the absolute worst year I have ever seen, as far as people seeming to argue about anything, and everything.

Many people are scared. Frustrated. Feeling like they have no voice.

Amid all this, Jesus still says,

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28 NIV)

At Christmas time this year, I lost myself in decorating and doing normal activities involving Christmas.

I have been sending out cards to people shut in, or who are in rest homes.

Some things we can do that are healthy. instead of arguing with others about how to solve the worlds’ problems are:

  1. Use your talents to cheer someone up. They can surely use the lift!
  • Force yourself to walk away from articles and posts that disturb you.
  • Pray, every time you find yourself worrying and cast your cares on God.
  • Try listening with empathy to someone who sees things from another viewpoint and make up your mind to just listen, and not argue with your own opinion.
  • Make up your mind to do normal activities as much as possible, and not dwell on subjects that irritate you. In other words, exercise some self-control.

I am sure there are many ways to think positive and do healthy things, despite the turbulence going on in the world today. Think of it this way; You are far more help to someone if you are an anchor in their waves, or a lighthouse in their storm.

Being part of the problem is to allow yourself to stay upset and of no help or worth to anyone. Being part of the solution is going to require some well thought out decisions and perseverance, which will shape your character and make you a far more effective vessel for God’s Kingdom.