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Christmas #6 Grumpy Men at Christmas time? Confessions of a Christmas addict………….

Tim at Target (Helping me shop).

This picture is of my husband Tim, when we were in Target, looking at Christmas Sweaters. He did this so I could see the approxomite size, as I was looking at a sweater for a friend. He does love Christmas, but he doesn’t like the stress that often accompanies this famous holiday. Who does?

I didn’t realize for a long time, I was the one who was making things stressful for him. I would talk about all the stuff I had to do, acting like it was one big obligation after the other. I worried about not having enough money for gifts, too. One time he sold a gun and gave me the money to buy my kids presents.

Other years, (to my almost shame) we went into debt over it. I don’t like to admit I have crossed the line from “enjoying Christmas” to being addicted to doing all the things I THINK I must do (at Christmas time).

There is one little scripture I want to mention: 2 Corn 9:7 “God loves a Cheerful giver”

There is no time of year like Christmas, to bring out the best and worst in people. If we do things grudgingly or out of compulsion, God may not be as pleased as we think. “OH WOE” I used to cry out- “I have to do this and I have to do that…….” And do I like to admit this to you? NO I do not!

Not every man is grumpy because of their wives, but you can bet if they lost their little boy wonder about it all, it was probably due to grave disappointment(s) at some time in their lives. This particular year, Tim started getting his JOY back over the Holiday.

Christmas is one time of year we should not be under obligations, trying to hold our noses right, or trying to follow some list of rules of “How Christmas ought to be.” BUT we do it to ourselves if we insist on trying to make everyone happy (starting with that Santa Claus gift we HAVE To get for the children).

I had a guy tell me recently, “Don’t tell anyone I said this but I do love Christmas, the trees, the lights……” Some men don’t think it’s manly to get goo goo about Christmas time. Others dread the commercialism, and how they might fail people if they don’t get the right gift, or have enough money to get the right thing. For them it feels like a big test or final exam at school, and all they feel is the potential failure looming on the horizon!

How can we make Christmas better for our men (and loved ones?). We can set them free from Obligations! “YOU DON”T HAVE TO GET ME ANYTHING” and I will not pout! If you get me anything at all I will smile- and be grateful you thought of me!

Yes my darlings, “Say it and mean it.” Christmas is not about what we get, it’s about what we give. Love and freedom from the chains of obligation are the best things we would ever give a person. How about “I LOVE YOU!” MERRY CHRISTMAS!! A cheerful smile and merry Heart is something we can all afford.

with Love!

Laura Grace

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Christmas Mediation day 2: The good the bad and the ugly ….

Let’s pray a minute: “Father bless this day, anoint my words, and help anyone out there who struggles with Christmas to be healed and enjoy it Father! IN Jesus’ name I pray…Amen”

I can remember bad things, or I can remember good things, about Christmas time. There were the gifts we wished for that we didn’t get, and we can remember the happy people, or the crabby ones, it is up to us.

After I visited a festival of trees in Spokane Wa, I decided to up the ante on my tree decorating, and try to do a better job. I had my years of saying “You aren’t here Mom, so I’m gonna glob that tinsel on thick” ha ha ha

And what does Christmas have to do with Jesus, you say? Aren’t we supposed to be studying his word, and growing? Think about that for a moment. How can we grow?

Do we remember the good (About Christmas?) or do we remember the bad? Is Christms about getting our way all the time? Or the perfect “Martha Stewart dinner?”

My son and daughter both wished for the chance to pick things out, so some years I have included gifts cards, while other years, they said “Mom, I’m sorry I’m never going to use this (contraption) you just gave me.”

Barking out statements like “It’s the thought that counts” puts a squash on how people feel. Being rude and saying “I hate this’ is also rather, well, rude to say the least. Why can’t we just tell the truth? hmmm….

I can remember getting stressed out when I was young, trying to keep appointments with older people who had dinner at 1, but my kids were hungry at noon. Trying to beat people into submission to accomodate others, does NOT make Christmas fun. Does it? Perhaps we need to learn how to communicate that……

It’s not fun when people are late to supper, it’s not fun when there are rules and regulations about how Christmas is supposed to be. I think what is cool for me, is that was when my kids were growing up, we were so poor we got a complete Re-set about Christmas. If it wasn’t for God, Christmas would not have happened at all.

And why are those movies so special to people, like the Grinch movie and some others? Because they get across the point Christmas is not about the stuff we get, or the perfect tree, or the perfect holiday dinner.

God loves the stuff that CAN and often does come out at Christmas time. The generosity, the smiles, the singing, the thoughtfulness, and yes THE LOVE that people express in various ways at Christmas time.

So many times I have thought, What if people were like this all year long? Celebrating, Making merry in their hearts, looking for ways to bless others….

(To be continued). PS (It’s six weeks away) ….