Please don’t tell them they have to stay because it’s their duty to show “God’s love” to someone who abuses them over and over again. It’s not God’s will to send his kids out to be beaten by wolves in sheeps’ clothing. He doesn’t magically fix a spouse who wants to be abusive who wants nothing to do with HIM or His Ways. He doesn’t take away free will. It’s simply not responsible to teach someone to take repeated abuse. My book is not expensive and in down to earth language so anyone can undersand it. If you know someone who is abused and is afraid God will be upset with them if they leave their abusive spouse, I encourage you to get my book. I believe it glorifies God. With Love, Laura Grace https://lauragracebooks.com/about/
The Lord showed me this yesterday…….
When we’ve made decisions that we later wish we hadn’t made, there is a danger we will lose credibility with ourselves. We no longer trust ourselves, so we can easily lose confidence in our ability to hear from God. This is the #1 threat to falling away, becoming entangled in religion, and a host of other problems which seem to “stunt our growth” In the Christian life.
We need to realize that so long as we are not living IN the word of God (and his words living in us) we are susceptible to deception. Adam and Eve had total wholeness when they were created, and lacked no ability to hear from God. When they disobeyed him, it wasn’t like they had lost any ability to hear (Him) nor were they born into a world of corruption and sin.
They willfully disobeyed him. This is so different from a person who becomes born-again, who now must trek through the layers of wrong teachings, lies of the enemy, and a multitude of obstacles, to come to their full stature (and wholeness) in Christ. As a new believer, I got deceived a few times, and it shook me up so much, I began to lose what I call “credibility with myself.” The cure for this is to look back, and realize it was God who saved you, not the church, not you and your own wisdom, and forgive yourself for what you didn’t know (back then.).
We are not out to make excuses here, but a five-year old can hardly be blamed if “their teacher” told them to get on the wrong bus. When that child is lost, has to call for help, and is found crying on a streetcorner somewhere, you’re going to want to know “who put them on the wrong bus,” right? After this, if you care about the child at all, you’ll want to teach them how to find their own bus, so they never get lost again. This is the very heart of God (towards us) that we would not be like children (tossed about, lost, or frightened) but armed and equpped to make great decisions, every single day.
God wants us to learn how to follow him, not how to “follow man.” We are all called to become priests, kings, and ambassadors for him. Anyone who tells you otherwise, and tries to live under the frame work of the old testament, is living under a shadow of what was to come.. We don’t want to live in the shadows anymore! In Christ, In Him, and having him as our Shepherd, there is no reason to be lost, ever again. Father I ask you, for those who have lost confidence in their ability to hear from you, “Restore it today’ I pray in Jesus’ mighty name. We say ‘get behind me satan” you do not have in mind the things of God. We have the mind of Christ, we are following after Jesus, he is our Shepherd, and the sheep know his voice.”
I can remember times when doing the right thing was like pulling teeth For me, literally. I hope this is not too candid, but I can remember times I screamed and hollered to the Lord I cannot take this anymore (screaming!!) and telling him how unfair it all was. I told him when I was tempted beyond what I could bear, I cried, yelled, begged, pleaded and said why why why don’t you do something about ________(so and so).
Injustice was a thing that drove me nearly insane, as my soul counted up the cost of doing the right things for years on end, while someone else did what they pleased (and seemed to have no consequence). I was doing it God’s way and I wanted his help. I need him to back me up or I could do it no longer. I finally came to a place I had to say okay, I”ll go without him (my spouse) “Please Father do not let me Go!”
You see, you really can’t do the counselling “co-dependent no more” thing and love your enemies and bless them at the same time.
Can you? I wish I could get across to some people out there (who have never experienced being married to an addict) that many are so slippery about not getting caught, covering their tracks, lying, getting away with stuff (and on and on it goes)
They aren’t BAD enough to get sentenced to treatment sometimes. I did the intervention thing, got him all mad at me, then he stayed one day and ran away from there. Telling people to do tough love ain’t that easy, unless you are willing to be like the good samaritan who paid the whole cost for someone’s healing. Why do I say that? Because: ALL THOSE PROGRAMS you heard about, often do not help. Women who try to get free often get beat up, silenced and they finally stop telling you what is going on. They fear for their lives. Capice?
How many of you out there have just wanted to give up? Be honest! If you’ve loved, forgiven, prayed, turned the other cheek so many times you lost count, isn’t there a time you finally say “Enough already?” Maybe just give up on that person and don’t tell anyone, because if you have to hear one more “love lecture” It will be the end of your rope! What’s the purpose of this message right now? It’s This:
LET THEM GO BEFORE YOU HATE THEM!
If you Shrink back from Jesus because your abuser makes you want to turn on God it’s TIME TO GO………….GET OUT OF THERE! Nothing is worth losing Jesus over.
The same applies to Jobs where you are being abused, when church people abuse you……..(and on and on it goes). Pray for God to help you as his GRACE will keep you where he intends you to be. Sometimes we are “no longer graced to be” in a certain situation. It’s time to go……….
If you have loved and forgiven, loved and forgiven, God gave you the grace to do that. You asked for strength, he gave it to you. If you can’t do it anymore even after prayer IT”S TIME TO LET GO! You matter too. God doesn’t want anyone “dragging your soul to hell” because they are bent on destruction.
Having Faith means not letting go of Jesus’ hands. Have faith to let go my friend, Have faith to press on…..Have Faith to see miracles, have Faith to believe the miracle might just be “YOU” surviving this…..”Have Faith” …..
How you accomplish that, is between you and God, my friend.
Laura Grace, author, Grace to the Rescue. A story of Deliverance. A story of Love. A story of Hope. A story of Redemption. And it’s all true:
One of the hardest things I’ve ever done (and still do) is accepting what I cannot change. it’s especially hard when you love someone, so very much, and you’ve invested so much into them, you just practically die trying to let them go…….
We need to let go of people sometimes. People who are not ready to receive yet, or people who don’t want to change anything and it becomes what I call a one-way relationship. Relationships take work, committment, prayer, wisdom, (can you think of some more ingredients?) from both people to succeed & be good.
My advice is to get to a place you can Rest in Him- and allow God to do the work he needs to do in you, no matter what! Even if others are not as passionate as you are about it. This is called “loving yourself” (the Jesus way).
….then when you’ve received from God- you can love others “as you love yourself”…see? You can let go without giving up on a person. You can commit them into the loving hands of Jesus, through prayer. I have said sometimes “Thank you Father if you want this relationship to be, you will work things out. Show us what your vision is Father, for our relationship, in Jesus’ name!”
There have been those I’ve had to let go of, simply because they were hindering God from taking me where I wanted to go. In those cases, at times, I”ve had to let go.
If you really fulfill the royal law according to the Scripture, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself,” you do well
I’m not sure God meant foot massages, meals out, or great vacations. The best way to love yourself is to spend time with Him (and allow him to be your best friend!).
” And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ This is the first commandment. 31 And the second, like it, is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”
So the scribe said to Him, “Well said, Teacher. You have spoken the truth, for there is one God, and there is no other but He.” -Mark 12:31-32
Prayer: “Dear Father help me stay in balance today. Help me love others AS I love myself. Help me to love myself the way you intended and receive what you want me to receive.” you know best! In Jesus’ name” Amen.