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God is not unfair, or unjust….He is not a “mean dad” either!

mean dad It breaks my heart when I find people have had the wrong picture painted for them, about God and who he really is. I know too, that it upset Jesus too, which is why he was so very hard on the Pharisees, and even on his disciples at times. HE CAME to make sure God was not misrepresented. That was part of why he came down here to earth, and had those 12 people follow him around. He made a way to reconcile us to God our Father, because it was not his will, nor his intent, for everyone to be seperated from God due to Adam and Eve’s sin of turning their ears away from him. 

When I was about 10, I was with some friends playing in the yard, and this one kid went and played with the charcoal in the BBQ grill. I remember the mom noticed it had been messed with, and tried to get us to admit “who did it.” I wouldn’t tell on him, and neither would his sisters, and he would not confess. She made us all bend over, and smacked us all with a wooden spoon. Not only did it hurt, it was humiliating, as well. I remember being very upset with her, and thinking how unfair that was. For years, I didn’t think the same about this woman, after this,  nor trust her judgement, because of her decision to punish us all. 

In a church setting, we are often not treated as individuals. We all get the same message, and those who are sitting there are often scolded, or even given a message that may only apply to one person in that group. There are times when ministers have dealt with hard or almost impossible issues with others, and wind up dishing out a type of “wooden spoon” sermon, which makes those who are trying to be good and follow God feel very discouraged. God did not intend for us to be without his guidance in our own (Personal) lives.

When Jesus said the Holy Spirit would teach them (John 14:26) He meant “individually, to you.”

What kind of Father would give a child with music abilities more football training? Wouldn’t a good Father notice and cultivate the gifts he put within his own child? Of course he would! God knows what you are good at, and whaf you are not good at. He knows what he wants to cultivate in you, and he’s not out to treat you like some soldier in an army, marching off to war. Tell me where Jesus gathered up a big army to go conquer the city and rid of of sin? Tell me how he made all the disciples be exactly alike, and march in unison to go reach the world for his causes? 

For the most part, Jesus dealt with people one on one, and so did his disciples. He cultivated and shaped Peter, James, John, and the others, into who he wanted them to be. He did not get on Mary’s case for not helping Martha with dinner, and he didn’t tell Peter he needed to be just like John. In fact, every disciple in the bible had their own unique style (and ministry). This is why the belief the Holy Spirit will teach you is so very important!

I have the bible on my side, because Jesus said to them, (and therefore, to us also), And He (the Holy Spirit) will cause you to recall (will remind you of, bring to your remembrance) everything I have told you”.… John 14:26 

God does not “spank everyone” when one person is naughty, He doesn’t insist we all be exactly alike, and he is not into ministry that produce “Cookie Cutter” Christians. Before you mention the Old Testament to me, remember this; Noah, Abraham, Hannah, (and many others) had a different outcome, all because they seperated themselves unto him. And you can do the same. 

We need to find out what we are. (Pastor, Prophet, Apostle, Prayer warrior, helps, worker of miracles, Evangelist, teacher, and so on……..). Ask Him! He’s listening! 

Laura Grace, Author,

Grace to the Rescue, Grace to Grow, and Dysfunctional People 


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Leadership is…………

Leadership is

Speaking of Growing……….

I got asked to lead the entire music program over 2 years ago, for our local school. They had no music teacher, so I was elected. I dropped to my knees in prayer, felt like I was facing a giant. “How do I do this Lord?” I inquired of him. is this you? (I said) and can I do this? He assured me i could. I was so scared! Truly, the word petrified comes to mind.

I am not the born-leader type, not a type A personality, nada. But I have read the words, “Let the weak say I am strong.” I know God qualifies the unqualified. 

I’ll never forget that first day, kids came piling into my room, and there I was, “the teacher.” I had some experience with leading worship but, that’s about it. As their music teacher, their entire success seemed to depend on me. It was scary!

The high school kids told me they “were really bad singers” and they’d been embarrassed at some event they’d had the prior year.  When I asked them what they knew they said “Not much, we’re pretty bad.” 

It was at that moment, the desire formed in me to Help them succeed! The need in front of me seemed to bring out “the gifts within me.”

I sure did pray for their success (and mine). In My heart, I know God guided me to help them succeed, and part of it involved discipline.

They didn’t like the discipline, my insistence they pay attention, not let them just skate by (and treat music class like an easy A). I made them sing the songs over and over and over again. “I think we got it now,” they would say, and I would say “You’re going to do it again’. I had them do stuff that seemed silly or even beneath them, (at the time) but soon they were singing togehter like champions. 

Needless to say, they had a successful concert (2 of them) everyone loved it, and I know they felt proud of themselves when it was all over.

Just like young David and his 5 stones, God unfolded to me a plan for each group of children (K-12). It was amazing! Had I not stepped into the water with courage, I never would have witnessed what God can do, (through me.). It was incredible! 

Nobody likes discipline (at the time) we all want that easy walk from point A to point B but……..Hang in there! Discipline helps us become all we were meant to be. It’s a part of growing, (and a very necessary ingredient).

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Me with the Kids 2016

-Laura Grace, author, Grace to Grow 

Hebrews 12:11 “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.” #discipline #Goddisciplines#disciplinetodisciple