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Know it alls & One-uppers! Do we know how to listen? (Grace to Grow)

know-it-allBoy I tell ya……….OH Good morning by the way! 

Know it alls…..one uppers…….Or People who just have to be the center of attention, or who always have to be “right.” Ever met anyone like this? You just get the feeling they are not listening, but chomping at the bit, waiting for their turn to talk. 

I’ve had some experience with being a talk -a-holic. I can remember some comments my husband has made to me such as “You’ve been talking for an hour straight, without taking a breath” (this was a few years ago) Or sometimes I would stop on my own and say, “I’ve been hogging the conversation,” To which he would reply “Help! I”m talking and I can’t shut up!” (making fun of me!). When we first got together, 14 years ago now, I was just in desperate need to be “in control” Of the conversation at all times. 

My goal? Well, sometimes it was to get him to understand me (which is about me) or to get him to see it my way (also about me) to get him to agree with me (about me again!) OR sometimes to straighten him out! How easily our desire to help, can easily turn into an ego trip. I have, in the past found myself saying “WELL, if they aren’t going to listen to me then………They can just go their own way!” (Crossing my arms, thinking I won’t put them out unless they are on fire!) All signs of immaturity by the way. 

But, there is the art of listening, too. You know, years ago, When I first found out I’d been taught some things wrong (even about what it says in my bible) I kind of decided to not listen, and I shut people out in an effort to guard my heart. It does say in the bible to guard our hearts, but it is also possible to get to a point where, we can retain what we believe, and still listen to what others have to say about a matter. 

Being hyper-vigilant can be extreme. We can calmly say; “I don’t agree.” however there is a problem when, the other person chooses not to respect what we believe. I have noticed, especially in politics, many who believe in freedom to believe as they wish (so they say) are very hypocritical, attacking and slamming others for THEIR beliefs, while at the same time maintaining that “others’ shall not shout them down or “ram’ their beliefs down their throats. WE are seeing those who say “I don’t want to hear that christian stuff” while they attempt to force others to believe (how they believe) and even try to make laws to enforce it. So, before I can remove a speck out of someone’s eye, first I have to get the log out of my own eye. Many believe it’s a compromise to listen to the views of others……….

But that is not so. I dare say, Jesus actually listened to some input from others. One was the day he said to a woman wanting healing “It’s not good to give the children’s bread to dogs” (Gentiles were compared to dogs you see) and SHE said “even the dogs get the crumbs from the master’s table! “How great is your faith” He said, and healed her!

You know I can’t think of a case, where someone in the bible marched up to Jesus and said “how dare you preach that” Or correcting him in front of others. Unless of course it was the Pharisees, who used scripture to tell him how “wrong he was” to heal on the Sabbath, or tried to trick him, bait him, or goad him into giving up. He finally told them off, in no uncertain terms……”BROOD OF VIPERS” He said. Why? I think it’s because he needed to drive off the crows, who were trying to steal the precious seeds of truth and wisdom he was planting. We have some truth seekers, truth lovers, and wise Spirit filled people in this world, but friends? What do we do about the crows? Especially crows who think they have the right to run up and snatch the seed before it’s even sown? 

HMMM ……..are you helping the cause of Christ? Or coming against it? Something to think about. And is it love to let the crows gobble up the seed? “Father help me to listen more, learn more, and be quiet before you. “teach me to listen” Open the eyes of my heart I pray. Heal me of all insecurities that make me act up. Help me grow! Father please help me be a lover of truth! I ask you sincerely, in any areas where I think I know the truth if I am wrong? Please uproot those lies, Grant me thy truth I pray! Grant me wisdom! In Jesus’ holy awesome and mighty name. Amen 

 

Laura Grace, Author, minister, and your friend Laura Grace

 

 

 

 

 

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#2 Contraceptives Were illegal? A man of God AVOIDS EXTREMES!! Word of Wisdom……for you and I.

a beautiful light house.jpgI was watching a show last night (documentary) and learned that for a long time, contraceptives were illegal, in the United States of America. I was watching in dismay, as I heard how this man tried to pass out contraceptives, and was arrested, even put in jail over it!

Many Christians believed (back then) it should be illegal, and were putting sure they were in God’s will to put up such a fight.  This was Extreme. (see the passage, Ecc 7:8)

AS God still says, a man who fears God, avoids all extremes. Now, you can ignore it, cast this wisdom off from you, but it’s Still a Word of God’s Wisdom, for us today.

What happened was, ONE MAN in a position of leadership, with great confidence in his beliefs, stood up and talked about why contraceptives should be illegal. He reasoned that Women could become promiscuous, or that they were not doing the will of God, and for a long time, many were on his side.

Women, through the years, have been made slaves by many, victims of abuse, untold suffering, and denied the freedom in Christ (to choose) and not so much today, but at one time, yes, they were denied much freedom.

We were designed to serve, love, nurture, but then again, so were men! Before the fall of Adam, men had all the attributes of God in their lives. God never intended for men to be brutal taskmasters, toward anyone! The next time you are thinking God is into your rally, just remember, what is justice to one, may be unjust towards another……..

NONE OF US Understands the full spectrum or scope of JUSTICE in it’s purest form, without seeing through the eyes of God the Father and Jesus, his son.

this is a word of Wisdom, for you and for me. Stop and consider, before you jump on the bandwagon for what you consider to be Justice. Amen.

#Grace to Grow By Laura Grace, author Of Grace to Grow Study Guide, and Grace to Soar