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Know it alls & One-uppers! Do we know how to listen? (Grace to Grow)

know-it-allBoy I tell ya……….OH Good morning by the way! 

Know it alls…..one uppers…….Or People who just have to be the center of attention, or who always have to be “right.” Ever met anyone like this? You just get the feeling they are not listening, but chomping at the bit, waiting for their turn to talk. 

I’ve had some experience with being a talk -a-holic. I can remember some comments my husband has made to me such as “You’ve been talking for an hour straight, without taking a breath” (this was a few years ago) Or sometimes I would stop on my own and say, “I’ve been hogging the conversation,” To which he would reply “Help! I”m talking and I can’t shut up!” (making fun of me!). When we first got together, 14 years ago now, I was just in desperate need to be “in control” Of the conversation at all times. 

My goal? Well, sometimes it was to get him to understand me (which is about me) or to get him to see it my way (also about me) to get him to agree with me (about me again!) OR sometimes to straighten him out! How easily our desire to help, can easily turn into an ego trip. I have, in the past found myself saying “WELL, if they aren’t going to listen to me then………They can just go their own way!” (Crossing my arms, thinking I won’t put them out unless they are on fire!) All signs of immaturity by the way. 

But, there is the art of listening, too. You know, years ago, When I first found out I’d been taught some things wrong (even about what it says in my bible) I kind of decided to not listen, and I shut people out in an effort to guard my heart. It does say in the bible to guard our hearts, but it is also possible to get to a point where, we can retain what we believe, and still listen to what others have to say about a matter. 

Being hyper-vigilant can be extreme. We can calmly say; “I don’t agree.” however there is a problem when, the other person chooses not to respect what we believe. I have noticed, especially in politics, many who believe in freedom to believe as they wish (so they say) are very hypocritical, attacking and slamming others for THEIR beliefs, while at the same time maintaining that “others’ shall not shout them down or “ram’ their beliefs down their throats. WE are seeing those who say “I don’t want to hear that christian stuff” while they attempt to force others to believe (how they believe) and even try to make laws to enforce it. So, before I can remove a speck out of someone’s eye, first I have to get the log out of my own eye. Many believe it’s a compromise to listen to the views of others……….

But that is not so. I dare say, Jesus actually listened to some input from others. One was the day he said to a woman wanting healing “It’s not good to give the children’s bread to dogs” (Gentiles were compared to dogs you see) and SHE said “even the dogs get the crumbs from the master’s table! “How great is your faith” He said, and healed her!

You know I can’t think of a case, where someone in the bible marched up to Jesus and said “how dare you preach that” Or correcting him in front of others. Unless of course it was the Pharisees, who used scripture to tell him how “wrong he was” to heal on the Sabbath, or tried to trick him, bait him, or goad him into giving up. He finally told them off, in no uncertain terms……”BROOD OF VIPERS” He said. Why? I think it’s because he needed to drive off the crows, who were trying to steal the precious seeds of truth and wisdom he was planting. We have some truth seekers, truth lovers, and wise Spirit filled people in this world, but friends? What do we do about the crows? Especially crows who think they have the right to run up and snatch the seed before it’s even sown? 

HMMM ……..are you helping the cause of Christ? Or coming against it? Something to think about. And is it love to let the crows gobble up the seed? “Father help me to listen more, learn more, and be quiet before you. “teach me to listen” Open the eyes of my heart I pray. Heal me of all insecurities that make me act up. Help me grow! Father please help me be a lover of truth! I ask you sincerely, in any areas where I think I know the truth if I am wrong? Please uproot those lies, Grant me thy truth I pray! Grant me wisdom! In Jesus’ holy awesome and mighty name. Amen 

 

Laura Grace, Author, minister, and your friend Laura Grace

 

 

 

 

 

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Tainted words. What IS unconditional love? By Laura Grace

I can tell you what it means to me. Maybe it’s not what it means to you? Let’s see!

It doesn’t mean I am always likeable. Or that I am always right! God loves me enough to tell me the truth, even if it hurts. He has to, he cannot separate himself from himself, so love is God’s truth (even when it doesn’t line up with my own thinking!) And it’s kind, patient, covers us, suffers long with our faults, hardly notices we do something wrong, yet rejoices in what we do right (and cheers us on!)

God’s love is so perfect, it’s hard to take it when humans mess with us. Even those who do not know God, know what love is, and what it isn’t. (They really do, deep down!).

Often people, even friends, can tell us what they view as “The truth” and it’s tainted with humanity, and becomes hard to receive or swallow. “HOW DARE THEY” We think, How do I know this? (You may ask). Humans need God’s help to truly be Helpful! Human wisdom is not usually that helpful. Why? Its empty, vain, “Philosophy.”

This is why so much that is meant to help, does not help that much! God knows what we need. You’d be amazed at what he’s used to heal me, bless me, revive me! Nothing I ever read about in any magazine or book! GOD IS SMART! He knows what you need and how to Love you! (Ask him!, It’s true!!).

I”ve been hurt by tainted words, and yes, I’ve dished it out sometimes, as well. Yes, I have. And I Know it.  And God dealt with me when I did!! (Thank Goodness!).

Love does not lie to us. Love is not about feelings. But we need to be humble enough to Go before God constantly and say “Is my truth your truth?” Help me Father not to speak if I am full of bologna! If My words are hurtful- KEEP MY BIG MOUTH SHUT!”

FEELINGS are like the signs and wonders that follow those who believe. If we are truly loved, the good feelings will FOLLOW! After we’ve received correction, tears happen, we are sorrowful for what we have done, even repentant! The tainted twisted love of this world puts feelings FIRST. Nobody gets anywhere when feelings are #1 in the scenario.

Feelings without Truth, without some real clear input (and understanding) Is a dangerous thing. It leads to all kinds of things, dangerous things. So no, love it not a feeling, but, when I am in love I have good feelings too!

Many choose not to do the hard work that is required to have good relationships, with God, with friends, with spouses, or with others. “YOU DON”T LOVE ME” They cry (if someone does not agree with them, all the time!) So how do we learn to love well? (Like God does?)

FIRST we have to understand his love, for if we do not, we will continue to pass out this “tainted love” that we learned from others, who were not as informed as they said they were!

God IS love so, that means every word he said IS LOVE! WOW! so if His Love does not approve of what we are doing, why is that? We need to find out and learn WHY his love is saying,  “that’s not good for you!!” ……His love is also Wisdom so, perhaps by bumbling along doing things “OUR WAY” will eventually lead to “WOW God loves me! Maybe I should get in on this WISDOM! He did say he would give that to me!!

tainted love is clouded with human understanding, reasoning, opinions of every kind…..

HELP US FATHER To see how much you love us, come to our senses, and ask you for help! You LONG TO HELP US! Amen! and help us Father, to let go of all this “tainted love” and receive it from you! Again! Help us Father also, to see some are not ready for good relationships yet. It’s a two way street, and if they won’t participate, we cannot do this alone! So Help us Father to let go of those types of relationships, and be wiling to embrace “what is” Instead of continually striving for “what isn’t” …..in Jesus’ name. And please Father, fill us with your love, Again and Again!

Amen!

-Laura Grace

 

 

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