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Relationships! no more drama, not even for your mama! by Laura Grace

Relationships! Introduction: By Laura Grace Should I give up, shut up, put up my dukes? 

Relationships are one of the hardest things we will ever contend with in this life. Frankly Not a subject I have wanted to contend with OR address. Even in my book Grace to Grow, I talked about it being hard. but I didn’t say a whole lot about it. That’s because it’s not cut and dry. Every relationship is different. There are variations (Within) and while we all know there are basic principles in the word of God how do we know Which Principle to apply?

I’m going to address hard truths, talk about real situations, and share with you what God 
has taught me thus far about relationships……..

What about giving up? Did I fail that person? How do I know? How do I get closure when they won’t talk to me anymore?

How do I love them- yet avoid the drama? AS we begin……Let’s Ponder Matthew in chapter 5 where Jesus said “Blessed are the peacemakers” …….(Matthew 5:9) and 
explore how we make peace (in various ways) as we are BECOMING children of God.

Yes, I said becoming. (You’re being formed and shaped here, into his image!) Amen

“Father please, be with me as I do this series and I know you will be. Allow me to share from your heart to theirs “what works” and what does not work! For you already know! and you know all the persons out there who wonder about how you said make peace but yet you said at times there will be no peace in certain relationships…..

 

Give us understanding we pray (Father) In Jesus’ name. and we thank you for it too. 

 I ask you Father help us to undertand your word better, and how to apply it in everyday life! IN Jesus’ name! -amen

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Tainted words. What IS unconditional love? By Laura Grace

I can tell you what it means to me. Maybe it’s not what it means to you? Let’s see!

It doesn’t mean I am always likeable. Or that I am always right! God loves me enough to tell me the truth, even if it hurts. He has to, he cannot separate himself from himself, so love is God’s truth (even when it doesn’t line up with my own thinking!) And it’s kind, patient, covers us, suffers long with our faults, hardly notices we do something wrong, yet rejoices in what we do right (and cheers us on!)

God’s love is so perfect, it’s hard to take it when humans mess with us. Even those who do not know God, know what love is, and what it isn’t. (They really do, deep down!).

Often people, even friends, can tell us what they view as “The truth” and it’s tainted with humanity, and becomes hard to receive or swallow. “HOW DARE THEY” We think, How do I know this? (You may ask). Humans need God’s help to truly be Helpful! Human wisdom is not usually that helpful. Why? Its empty, vain, “Philosophy.”

This is why so much that is meant to help, does not help that much! God knows what we need. You’d be amazed at what he’s used to heal me, bless me, revive me! Nothing I ever read about in any magazine or book! GOD IS SMART! He knows what you need and how to Love you! (Ask him!, It’s true!!).

I”ve been hurt by tainted words, and yes, I’ve dished it out sometimes, as well. Yes, I have. And I Know it.  And God dealt with me when I did!! (Thank Goodness!).

Love does not lie to us. Love is not about feelings. But we need to be humble enough to Go before God constantly and say “Is my truth your truth?” Help me Father not to speak if I am full of bologna! If My words are hurtful- KEEP MY BIG MOUTH SHUT!”

FEELINGS are like the signs and wonders that follow those who believe. If we are truly loved, the good feelings will FOLLOW! After we’ve received correction, tears happen, we are sorrowful for what we have done, even repentant! The tainted twisted love of this world puts feelings FIRST. Nobody gets anywhere when feelings are #1 in the scenario.

Feelings without Truth, without some real clear input (and understanding) Is a dangerous thing. It leads to all kinds of things, dangerous things. So no, love it not a feeling, but, when I am in love I have good feelings too!

Many choose not to do the hard work that is required to have good relationships, with God, with friends, with spouses, or with others. “YOU DON”T LOVE ME” They cry (if someone does not agree with them, all the time!) So how do we learn to love well? (Like God does?)

FIRST we have to understand his love, for if we do not, we will continue to pass out this “tainted love” that we learned from others, who were not as informed as they said they were!

God IS love so, that means every word he said IS LOVE! WOW! so if His Love does not approve of what we are doing, why is that? We need to find out and learn WHY his love is saying,  “that’s not good for you!!” ……His love is also Wisdom so, perhaps by bumbling along doing things “OUR WAY” will eventually lead to “WOW God loves me! Maybe I should get in on this WISDOM! He did say he would give that to me!!

tainted love is clouded with human understanding, reasoning, opinions of every kind…..

HELP US FATHER To see how much you love us, come to our senses, and ask you for help! You LONG TO HELP US! Amen! and help us Father, to let go of all this “tainted love” and receive it from you! Again! Help us Father also, to see some are not ready for good relationships yet. It’s a two way street, and if they won’t participate, we cannot do this alone! So Help us Father to let go of those types of relationships, and be wiling to embrace “what is” Instead of continually striving for “what isn’t” …..in Jesus’ name. And please Father, fill us with your love, Again and Again!

Amen!

-Laura Grace

 

 

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