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Relationships 5 “No More Drama not even for your mama” the dark underbelly of “Control” (Part 1)

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 Have you ever had anyone come on your FB wall and argue, and argue, and argue (Until you finally have to delete them?) Because if you don’t, the message you are trying to get across is lost in a sea of debate? It reminds me of when we were kids, and played “king of the hill.” Whoever could push you off your stance on the mount “became King!” …..

Control: To direct a person or animal to behave a certain way. To have power over something. Authority: the power to or right to make decisions, or direct (It is given) 

See the difference? One is given. One is assumed. Stephen had authority given by God to speak. A mob of controllers silenced him because they were cut to the heart (conviction). Acts 7:54-59

What is it? If you’ve spent any time on the internet, You’ve probably experienced control. It’s the counterfeit of Authority. Jesus spoke as “one who had authority” He did not argue with people, or try to talk over top of them.

He didn’t whine about how intolerant people are. He found those who wanted to listen.

If you notice, Jesus didn’t talk about “his rights’  His Authority came from the Father in Heaven. He walked in it by simply “going about his Father’s business.”  (Luke 2:49).

His Authority was questioned in Matthew 21. (by the Pharisees). He wisely refused to answer them. He knew their tricks.

Control starts with fear. Not fear like Fear of snakes or bugs, but fear of conviction or being exposed. Sometimes fear of not beng “in power or in control (of that which they wish to control!) Fear of hearing the truth..(and having to make adjustments). 

It was control (in a mob mentality) that made them stone Stephen to death Acts 7:54-59.

Controlling people will often accuse you of being controlling. Here is the difference. You have authority over your house, your face book, your car, your “twitter account” and before all that, your mind, your will and your emotions. God gave you freedom (from the evil one) when he sent Jesus to the cross.

He spoiled all those powers and triumphed over them, “making a show of them” openly. (Col 2:15).

People may have different things they want control of (and to put a lid on things) but the motive is always the same. “I am in control.” Ever heard that expression,” I”ve got it all under control?” Yes, you have! You may have even said it! Controlling people will talk over the top of you, not let you get a word in edgewise, and will use all sorts of tactics to “shut you up.” Why? Because they don’t wish to hear you. If you put them in their place, they will often call you: “conrolling!” 

I pray Father in Jesus’ name as I consider and reveal about control (and where it comes from) you will help us all learn YOUR ways and not man’s ways about how to deal with this. I pray this Father “LET THERE BE LIGHT” In all areas of our souls, hearts, and minds that comes only from you Dear Father!”

In Jesus’ name “deliver us” from the evil one, cause us to escape his lies, which have been growing like weeds since that day he entered this earth. In Jesus’ name. (amen)

-stay tuned for part 2. Laura Grace control vs influence.png   Author, speaker, minister of the gospel of Jesus Christ 

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Relationships, No More Drama, not even for your Mama! #4 Assumptions …..

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Who I DON”T want to be (and how I found out). by Laura Grace

I’m going to write this before I change my mind! I felt the Lord tugging at my heart to share about relationships a number of times….and I knew it would mean confessing mistakes I have made……….

So Years ago my husband tells me “his ex” used to buy a lot of food and not use it. I heard that, made a note of it, and make every attempt Not to be that way. Years go by, one day he notices I threw something out without using it and makes a comment “Did that go bad already, we didn’t even use it?” ….

Instantly (because I’m tired and had a hard day) I assume he is saying I’m like his ex. “That fast!” Hair trigger moment. “I’ve been busy!!” I snap- (and start listing what I had to do all day BECAUSE I assume he needs to know (because he doesn’t keep track of all my jobs, only what food is being tossed out!) “Okay Okay” He said it was just an observation I wasn’t attacking you!” (and looks all disgusted like I am a hila monster on fire!) I react to THAT next it goes into my mind “Gee wiz can’t I have a bad day?”

Now I’m bent! (and don’t even know why!) And see, all this happened so fast it’s like- “100 miles an hour” and the next thing you know, two people that were supposed to be relaxing in the harbor of their home are thinking “good grief, what’s wrong with YOU?” “NO, what’s wrong with you?” …….

Now, it’s been worse (in times past). I thought he should water flowers at this one place we lived (as I was tired, had done it all the time, and they needed watering. He decided to make “gardeners’ last stand” and say he didn’t want flowers in the first place! I was all indignant, he got a list of all the stuff I didn’t want to do that I  did…….and that’s why he should do it when I ask with no back talk! (Yeah I know, WOW) …but the thing is….

You can be a praying person, full of the spirit. LOVE GOD and love others- and STILL wind up like this! One is from being too tired, or not taking the time to just count to 10, think about what you are going to say next…….in this case, he has the right to say “I am not into flowers” and I have the right to say “I am not” Into whatever it is he wants me to do (change the oil maybe?) 😄

But the other thing we have to watch out for is this:  “assumptions’ like how I assumed he was comparing me to his ex? (Lickety split, it just happened) If we say well “sorry” and don’t pray on our ways….. we keep messing up (over and over again) Destroying the relationship we so cherished. If we say “Okay God, I need help with this JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS Problem” then …….

The  bible says “confess your faults’ and pray (for one another) AND you’ll be healed! It doesn’t say “point out their faults and assume it’s all them because hey YOU are the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus!” 
(and you can never be wrong? oh oh! )………

I know this is a long post. Maybe YOU are never like this but, we all have our flaws.🙂 (weak areas?) …..and it’s the little things sometimes. I hope my confession (one of many days I was OFF In my thinking for one reason or another) Will help you Remember to ASK “What did you mean by that?” When dealing with someone stop! ASK “What are you saying, can you clarify?” ….

Pretend you HAVE To be professional! It’s too easy to take someone we love for granted, & think things like “You should know me by now” (another assumption)

Helps you see yes ….we are all human! But let’s try to do better! And here’s the thing DO things in such a way you actually like yourself! There’s a story Jesus told, the master took a long time returning and this person began to “beat the servants” 😯and how much trouble he got in when the master came home! Let’s not be doing things wrong just because we think nobody sees us….

God sees everything! He is your Father! and he’s watching you! every day! Well I hope this helped someone ..

WIth Love And a prayer: “Father anyone out there who is just struggling with feeling things are unfair, hopeless, impossible! I Pray that You would help that person start with themselves! And learn to learn of you Father! NO matter what! In Jesus’ name help us all remember two wrongs do not make things right. Help us not to give up on our own integrity just becuase we’re having a bad day. Helpl us Father to love ourselves enough to get some rest or take a time out …….In Jesus’ name we pray. amen

Laura Grace

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Is the Gospel always good news? It is but not to all…..and here’s why……..

HAPPY SADI know we’ve all heard the saying “How beautiful are the feet of those, who bring good news.” (Isaiah 52:7) And even Jesus himself quoted Isaiah, letting everyone know he was the fullfillment of Isaiah’s prophecies, about a coming saviour, bringing Good News. 

To many of the Chief Priests and Pharisees, this was not good news. I was reading this morning how they yelled and screamed for him to be crucified. “He said he’s the Son of God” they said “Crucify Him!” (John 19:6). To the disciples who were told “Ye of Little Faith” by Jesus- (while in training) perhaps it didn’t always “Feel like” good news to them, either. Man always has an answer HE thinks is best, and God always has an answer. 

When the two do not agree, worlds collide.

We need to be aware of our choices, and what answer we are going to give creedence to.  I want to remember that those who stopped following Jesus, did not get anymore answers, or correction from God. He doesn’t throw his pearls out-for those who tend to trample on them. An idol is something that we give more creedence to than God and that CAN BE our circumstance, or problem sometimes. 

IN other words what is bigger to me? God, or my problem (the giant) I am facing? Jesus followers ask these hard questions. Those who don’t do not, and blame God for every single outcome (good or bad). So then, the gospel is always “Good News” but not to some. 

We (sometimes) try to bend it, twist it or even water it down to make it more palatable, but that is not wise. Oh Sure, God knows our hearts (I just wanted them to get it Lord!) 

But, we don’t need to “adjust” God’s word so that it “feels more” Like good news to those who won’t listen. We Don’t have to make it into Good News, It already is. The Good news is God is speaking (and has spoken) the question is: Are we listening to Him? Or something else? Incline your ear (toward him) Proverbs 2. If you care to…..

with love and prayers and blessing to you all 

Laura Grace

 

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Why are some christians so mean?

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The reason there are “christians” that act like something in the cast of “Mean Girls” is that Christianity is a spiritually imparted thing, not a learned thing, not a church you join, not something you inherit from your parents, and not a lofty goal to achieve- by continually striving to get there. “Real” Christianity is receiving by God’s spirit His ways, his revelations, his fruits of the Spirit, and most of all; HIS kind of Love. The types who think they have it (and have just learned to use the bible to hurt people) are the types that will kick a new Christian when they are down, so watch out! Don’t be deceived either, into thinking these false representatives of Christ are a true picture of “who he is.” Their image may say christian while their actions continually display behavior of the evil one. 

No one who is born of God will continue to sin, because God’s seed remains in them; they cannot go on sinning, because they have been born of God. 1 John 3:9 

                                

“The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.” Gal 5:19-21 

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What do you consider to be “RESPECTABLE” ? What does God think about Respect? and being respectful

I hear a lot about being respectful nowdays. “Respect me” or “That’s disrespetful.” The truth is if someone sets a boundary, we should respect that boundary or (the Authority) of the one who set the boundary. No Trespassing signs, No solicitors, Keep off the grass! If we violate those boundaries it’s a trespass. 

But really, what is being respectful or respectable in the eyes of Jesus? Or the World? are they the same? 

I really struggle with the word “respectful,” sometimes. I have prayed about it over the years, asking God what he thinks about it all. As usual he doesn’t answer, sometimes for years. I think it’s because he waits for His word to grow and develop in our heart(s). Sooner or later the fruit will come out, including the fruit of understanding his Word.

And yes, Understanding is a “fruit’ or outcome- of studying, praying and seeking him. 🙂 It’s the fruit of HIS own Love building us up (in HIm.)

I see this: What the World (humans in general) have respect for: 

  1. A person well-educated on a topic 2. Success financially 3. Ruling without apology and successful management of people or business 4. Overcoming incredible odds by sheer determination 5. Selfless Humanitarianism and tireless giving

This is what I see God Respects: 

  1. Receiving Revelation from Him (Understanding) about his Word by his Spirit. 2. Faithful with goods or money and not clinging to it, surrendered to Him 3. Serving without selfish Ambition as directed by His Spirit 4. Overcoming by his strength and in obedience toward Him 5. Ministry as God says to do it (no matter how foolish it looks) And looking after his own sheep (feeding them, finding them, helping them) and doing what he says! (When he says, how he says) Gen 4 The story of Abel.

  Pretty different, aren’t they? Do I care what the world thinks (about me?) Or what God thinks? Which one will I face for all eternity? Hmm 

Gen 4:4 “And the Lord Respected Abel”. (We know what happened to him, right?) 

To respect a boundary -is to not trepass. For instance, if you put out a sign “Keep off the Grass” Or tell someone “Please don’t belch in my house” and they do it anyway, it’s disrespectful (not honoring their wishes, in their own house).  I have no problem with this, but I do have a problem with respect when it comes to a one-way relationship.

As far as belief systems go, if I have to respect your beliefs, you need to respect mine. This means we may not “trespass on each other” If I say stop (regarding your input) or you say stop (concering my input) we both should have to stop (out of Love IE: Respect) For each other’s personal boundaries.

Here’s the thing: God’s Word, and the world’s opinion, will never mix. One is hot, one is cold. One is sharp, one is dull. You can’t be conformed to this world and transformed by God at the same time. We can’t love (be On fire or Hot) for God While embracing all the thoughts of this world (which is cold toward God,) and not become lukewarm. Hot and cold mixed makes “tepid” (Lukewarm) waters. Hot water flushes out bacteria, germs and unhealthy things. HOT For God’s word (on fire) cleanses us in Holy Fire.

So if I don’t seem respectful of the world’s advice, I will not apologize for that. My food is to do the will of my Father (in Heaven). My mandate is to Follow him. My mind is to be renewed on his Word, not every thing you want to tell me, that you think is cool or the latest rage, or the latest fashion. Call me disrespectful about the opinions of others if you wish, For really, I could say the same about you. Are you respectful of God’s Word?

He made this world! He Framed it! His input is Bread (and life) to my soul.

If you are looking for the world to applaud you for your belief system, you will probably be very disappointed. They aren’t going to applaud you. Respect for God, his ways, and his people is not something the world is ever going to do. If you give them

Respect,other than just saying Okay “I will” Keep off your grass” I WILL stop talking to you about God- because you said “it’s trespassing” has nothing to do with me having to listen to YOU and your opinions all day long! That is not respect, that’s cowing down to someone who does NOT have the answers (Christian) and you know better! So don’t listen to them. Stick with God. Blessed is the man who Trusts in Him (and inclines their ear to hear what God has to say!) Proverbs 2.   What Good is it to gain the world? (Jesus said) and lose your soul? Hmm Something to Ponder. 

-Laura Grace Author, Grace to Grow 

 

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Gods’ Grace to my Rescue……100 x 100 x 100…………and its happening now.

Book_Mockup1 It’s happening! (Now) This prophecy I received in May 2017 or Word of Knowledge rather ”

Which said: AMEN!!! Let it begin… The $100 will come in x100 ways with x100 people! Get ready (Chad Taylor) 

Genesis 26:12 
“Isaac planted crops in that land and the same year reaped a hundredfold, because the LORD blessed him.”
I don’t believe in these mass words to people that if you give or sow you (all be blessed) because God is into relationship, dealing with individual people, and every case is just a little different. If that were not so, our bibles would be really short, and we would not have all these various examples of Faith, expressions of Faith, and there would not be talk of People hearing from God, following his example, and so on and so forth.
 
For this journey called life in Jesus there is no “one size fits all roadmap.” There is you, him and the journey before you. Even when the discples asked about John “what about him’ Jesus said YOU “Follow me!” ……and did not even answer their question. What grace was shown to them as they challenged the master (with many questions) but that is how they learned from him! Jesus did not pass out pamphlets and say “Here are the 10 commandments of following me” Now ……GO …….
 
In May of this year I had applied for unemployment, got cut off suddenly (Because the computer system saw I worked at a school, and assumed I was going back to that job) because see I fell through the cracks AGAIN!. This has happened to me a lot in life I think it’s because God wants me to help those who seem to “fall through the cracks” And their story is just different, they don’t have “NORMAL” Things work for them. In Fact their life is not normal at all! Not the Status Quo, doesn’t’ fit the every day bill (and so on and so forth) so without further waiting I will tell you the rest of the story.
WHEN My unemployment was cut off and we had no way out and not enough money to make our bills I was touched in my heart to give 100.00 to this ministry. it was hard for me to obey, because it sounded crazy, stupid and like I had lost my mind! This urging inside me to do it was quieter than my brain that said “That can’t be God is that you God?”And truly if I had not studied my bible and learned TO GET GOD OUT OF THE Box
(of religion or things I was taught) I would not have given the 100.00 that day………
So the words in Purple above was what was told to me: “Get Ready” 100.00 x 100 ways from 100 people. I don’t know the time span, will it all happen this year? I have no idea.
I do know so far I’ve had four times of 100.00 being handed to me out of the blue. Not a paycheck, not because I asked for it, it just “Happened” ……..and yes four different people too and four different situations. In every case so far, it was also needed for something.
No I do not tithe in the traditional way. I just say all I have is yours Father, all I have is yours. And I mean it too. When I give most of the time it’s cheerfully, and by the time I gave that 100.00 that day I was cheerful cause it dawned on me “You cannot outgive God” IF HE tells you do do something Which can be just this urging in your spirit man
to just DO IT ……
He will bless you for it. You can’t out give him. You really can’t. I think God in his infinite Mercy, is trying to teach me NOT TO BE AFRAID To give or to follow him or to do things the way he tells me to do it. His love is incredible, his Mercy abounds
and his Grace as well! Please remember this is not a formula…..
It’s a Journey! It’s a Relationship! He’s your FATHER …….And he loves us SO MUCH! 
Father, for those who want to live in the supernatural today, for those who want a testimony from you, for those who say show me Father that I can ‘walk on water” In my own way……For those who just want to SEE Your power at work in their lives Father help them believe today for that miracle, that provision, that blessing that healing whatever it is Father they need from you Today! Let them abide (in you) and Not give up! IN Jesus’ name we pray Father, and Amen. 
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My Theory on why God answers prayer….or doesn’t sometimes…..

I think God answers prayer so we will know who He is. In Part We know him as provider when he provides. As healer when he heals, and as saviour when he saves. Deliverer when he makes us a free of a mindset or bondage we’ve been in, and teacher when he instructs us. We know him as Father, Protector and Leader …And disciplinarian and friend. 

I found a clue in this passage of scripture today and began to think about it. 

Exodus 9:29
  • Moses replied, “When I have gone out of the city, I will spread out my hands in prayer to the Lord. The thunder will stop and there will be no more hail, so you may know that the earth is the Lord’s. 

So you may know…….He did the same thing with Elijah and with Jesus “So you may know……” (what God looks like, what he thinks, what he does) ………

It may be silly but If I want to KNOW my Father I need to read “the whole book’ …..I don’t read it to show off, or look important! I read it to KNOW HIM! 

I can honestly say I”ve come to know God as provider, protector, deliverer, and friend. He is comfort he is Restorer……..He Is most certainly Love! but if we define love as always getting our way we won’t believe God loves us. No he doesn’t answer every prayer. “Because ye ask amiss” James exhorts…….

Some theologans then decide you can never pray for a bicycle for your child (because it’s asking amiss! God knows your heart! He is your FATHER (in Heaven) He knows what is good for us, and what isnt! HE DOES Love to suprise us too! If you never ask for something silly, you will never come to know that he cares (about certain things you didn’t think he cared about!). 

AMISS is not caring what God wants! I want what I want! It’s a covenant people! Him and you! You and him! KNOWING EACH OTHER (and what the other wants) This is what Jesus meant when he said “make them one with you as you and I are one” 

I want to share something I started praying a long time ago. “Father help me pray prayers you will answer” ……then I wait, I do pray in the spirit….

I dont pray the way every one wants me to all the time! why? Because  I asked him how I should pray! and not for MY WAY but I have learned how I have learned, truly HIS way is better than mine. Always! HIS way is better than mine. And God doesn’t send trials my way the devil does! God’s always GOOD the devil (always bad) We let the enemy in at times THE DICIPLINE OF GOD (asking for correction) is to have him show you how YOU are letting the enemy in! I tell ya I was so jumpy about asking God for correction the first few times but it’s a BLESSED THING to not get my way! And have him show me HIS! 

I know it seems like double talk to say ask and you’ll receive and then say God says no to some stuff ASK HIM WHAT he wants to do! (for you) this is about relationships! WE are not serving a God that is distant, or aloof or doesn’t WANT US To know him! HE WANTS US TO KNOW HIM! ……..Everything he does is to HELP US know him Better!! If we would only just get that! and not think he’s on our case all the time, or holding out on us! 

He Just …..WANTS US TO KNOW HIM! I promise He really does! 

With Love! by Laura Grace Author, speaker. your sister in Christ-and stay tuned for my upcoming book! it’s going to be great 🙂