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Grief and Pain (no, you are not stupid).

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Having Grief and Pain (You’re not stupid!) 
One thing I’ve not been known to ever do, is to call people’s 
feelings stupid (or dumb, or even wrong). I’ve learned some 
times the hard way our feelings should not dominate us, but 
at the same time, I know we have them. Grief comes in many 
forms, and sometimes people who can’t cry get very angry 
instead. Maybe they won’t cry because someone said it’s 
stupid, or maybe because it embarrasses them. 
You won’t catch me telling you there are right or wrong things 
to grieve about either. These ideas such as “There are starving
children somewhere” so be grateful for your plate of liver” or 
platitudes such as: “Well at least you are alive, or if one of your
children died, you still have the other” do not really help people 
feel better. Do they? Not very often. I would say mostly, not. 
People hire therapists in part, because they fear telling friends, 
family, and yes even pastors at times, their deepest thoughts 
and fears. They have grief and want to get over it. Sometimes 
the grief “seems to be” over something stupid. The fear that 
someone will call them stupid, makes them want to hide. 
“I AM SO STUPID!” (I have said that myself) When I am very 
frustrated for giving that person another chance (and they did 
that to me again!) Or I dared to dream, and now I’m disappointed
(again for the 14th time, or even the 100th time). 
I should never say that but, I have. Why? Why do we chastize our
selves like that? 
#1 We see others getting over it, so we think we are failures
#2 We think our grief is “stupid” to begin with. (not important). 
#3 We don’t understand where this grief is coming from or even how to stop it. 
Therapy sometimes goes too far in perpetuating our grief, (getting 
us to feel sorry for ourselves, which can lead to depression) 
God tells us to “be of good cheer” but sometimes, we can’t. We 
are sad. We need to cry. It’s called grieving. 
King David danced, but he also wept about sin and disappointment. 
Jeremiah wept over the sins of God’s people. 
Jonah got depressed because God did not destroy Ninevah after he 
delivered a word that it would be destroyed. Job got depressed too. 
I believe part of soul-healing is talking about it. Whether you talk to 
God about it, or someone else. Ministers like TD Jakes talk about their
soul being torn, ripped apart, dreams going out the window, and feeling
like God didn’t care (for awhile) about their pain. This is why people love
to read their stories. They can relate. 
We need teachers and we need prophets, but we need pastors too. 
Pastors tend to be nurturing people. They love and tend to the sheep. 
If they are not this way, perhaps they should not have been pastors. 
But in the world of men, There are not any paying postions for a lot 
of the other ministries (which is sad). They are forced to ask for money
continually, because nobody offers them a home, or a paycheck. 
Those people have dreams too (you see) And it’s a heart to reach the
lost, the hurting, the broken, and the dying. They can’t get there without
someone’s help. I just put one of my dreams on the Altar, because unless
God sends a way to provide for it, I just can’t do it anymore. 
It’s called “Authoring books” to reach the hurting. I can’t afford what it costs anymore, so I have to stop. My paychecks are like .01 (last quarter) for this endeavor. I’ve been doing it for 7 years now, and it pays nothing. And it’s okay but it still hurts to have dreams come to an end. I have to stop now. Until God provides for it. If he doesn’t, oh well! I will still love him just the same. 
And no I don’t want sympathy- but I have some grief right now. God will 
surely bring me out of it too. He always does! He is faithful! I have faced many disappointments in my life. And I will live through this one, too. 
As a minister and a child of God I find that “letting go” is one of the most 
painful things I have ever experienced. Letting go of what you know is bad
is hard, but letting go of something you thought was good is even harder. 
I am reminded of the following scripture in regardes to self-preservation. 
When you are done grieving, consider putting it all in God’s hands. 
We really are better off to put our lives in the Lord’s hands and say “Thy will 
be done, thy kingdom come, on earth, as it is in heaven.” Amen. 
Today is November 1. Happy Author’s day. I just layed my 7 year Journey 
of writing books at the Lord’s feet. 
Matthew 16:25 For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake, will find it.  Peace out (for now) Laura Grace 
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AN OPEN LETTER TO CHRISTIANS, Just because you are in Christ, doesn’t mean you’re always right!

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Speaking of chicken soup………(a letter to christians)
 
I feel bad I didn’t used to know this but, I needed to realize a long time ago when someone is sick (in the natural) You know how they can’t eat? Just need a little chicken broth?
 
Some are like that about Jesus- we need to be aware they can only handle so much at a time. I didn’t used to know this and I didn’t mean to but I have overwhelmed some people at times….
 
I thought I was being zealous for Jesus, and not compromising. but the truth is, I wasn’t REALLY walking in Love.
 
How I learned is by HAVING IT DONE TO ME, and instead of being all ticked off I prayed on it, asked the Lord about it, and asked him to reveal to me through his eyes, what is going on.
 
Sooner or later it’s time to say “what am I doing wrong Lord?” In the process of learning who we are in Christ (and learning to stand in his Righteousness) we must not forget we always need to be corrected. Correction is what makes us grow.
 
Without correction we do not grow! WE should know this, we’ve all seen kids who never had discipline, and how they turned out.
 
Some try to ram the whole banana of the gospel down someone’s throat and if they get sick and throw up beat them over the head for not receiving! Talk about not having a clue!
 
This is not evangalism, it’s abuse! And it’s what the so called liberals are reacting to, in many cases.
 
I do not suggest bowing to these types that want to over run the church but we cannot afford to be all uppity and assume we are always being persecuted. Sometimes…….WE”VE BEEN WRONG and we need to admit it, quit it, and start growing again. Amen
 
Let’s get a clue shall we? Maturity knows when to stop, because your mashed potatoes and gravy is making them feel sick. #getmature #growsomemore #getagriponJesus
 
Anyway this is not compromise,
 
IT”S WISDOM!! Let’s get some! AmenLaura Grace
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Bullies, and the needs of the many ……

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Bullies! We all know they are bad, and tend to intimidate, such as in this scene (above) from Little House on the Prairie, where the town of Walnut Grove, is visited by bullies.

In this episode, (called the Bully boys) the kind, nice, and even hospitable town’s people, are duped into helping a clan, which they later learn, are bullies.

We sort of get the feeling it’s because of their Christian charity, that they ever open their doors to these guys (who are bullies) In the first place!

Hey I’m just one little gal from Montana (who Prays) Not saying I know much, but I do know what a bully is, when I see one, and I do know about COMMON SENSE!

WE need Spock-like thinkers for leaders (Speaking of Hollywood) who say things like “The needs of the many, outweigh, the needs of the few.” And, Spock was no hypocrite, he did lay down his life (for the needs of the many) in the Wrath of Khan. There was none of this, “Oh Poor Khan,” He just had a difficult time, and needs to steal our ship! Nope!

In this little house episode, the town took care of it, ran the bullies out of town. They didn’t have to pray first, wonder if they were walking in love, or whether they were being politically correct (or not). A bully is a person who believes the need of the ONE (them) outweighs the needs of “everyone else” and they use intimidation, manipulation, threats, and whatever else they can grab hold of, (a big stick?) to get their way.

Captain Kirk constantly defended his ship, and the town of Walnut Grove drove out the bullies, in an awesome scene, where they were grabbed by the scruff of the neck, escorted out of town, and sent back to where they came from (wherever it was.) So then, tell me, are we thinking in terms of how the needs of the many, outweigh the needs of the few?

So, can you think of any situations right now, where a small group of people, who have “a right” To take over the nation are getting away with it? In the name of THEIR COMFORT?

Because ultimately, that’s what a bully is. It is someone who doesn’t care how it affects everyone else, so long as they feel better, and they are going to use guilt, threats, manipulation, “I WILL SUE YOU” ……..to get their way. Enough said. -Laura Grace

Author, Grace to the Rescue, Grace to Grow, Grace to Grow Study Guide, Grace to soar

 

 

 

 

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Shattered (broken) How Pain changes us forever …..

shattered%20livesFather in the name of Jesus I pray please, help me get across this message the way you want me to, by your Spirit, and amen.

PAIN CHANGES US forever, whether we like it or not. Pain gets across truth, whether we choose to realize it or not, as well. Let me give you an example.

I used to believe, it was never right to use deadly force. I was idealistic. When I was 18 years old, (many years ago) a person lied to me, knocking on the door, saying they wanted to inquire about my car, and whether or not it was for sale. He said he had a car like mine, and was interested in the engine. I said it wasn’t for sale ……….and I had the screen door locked as I talked to him through the screen.

I was a humanitarian, I believed in giving everyone a chance, I did not like people who seemed to be suspicious, fearful of other people, or even overly cautious…..

I did not believe in the booger man, and I did not believe in packing guns.

This man then (after his car story didn’t work) asked for a glass of water. I remember thinking it was a weird request, for just a moment in time. I unlocked the screen door, and that’s when it happened.

It was like a scene from a movie, unreal, terrifying, beyond words horrifying. He said he was going to rape me. I tried to be smart, had a heavy pan by the sink, backed up and grabbed it. I raised and said GET OUT In the loudest voice I could muster. Quicker than lightening, he had my wrist, got the pan out of my hand, had his hand over my mouth (because I screamed) and yes, raped me.

Then he had the gall, when he was arrested later, to tell his attorney, he thought I wanted it to happen because I was wearing shorts.

This blog is my warfare of truth, against a show I saw last night, one about Christians, going on and on about how it’s never right to kill, or to use deadly force, because of the 10 commandments. Let me tell you something, if something like that was happening to my child, and they refused to stop because I held up a gun, I would shoot them.

Chances are if I had a gun, they would stop. Certainly this cowardly rapist, bully, horrifying man, would have stopped, if I had a gun with the thing cocked and ready. Maybe I could have stopped him with Mace, who knows? IF Perhaps he was not loaded on some sort of drug that stops the pain.

It took me years to heal and recover, even with multitudes of fervent faith-filled prayer. I was afraid for so long after that, Sometimes I wondered if I would ever recover, but I did.

PAIN Changes people. If we will not seek after and listen to wisdom, chances are, eventually pain will change our perspective.

It’s not a punishment and it’s not Judgment in the sense of God saying “NOW, you shall suffer” it’s more like, “I can’t help you if you don’t listen …………” (Is what God is really saying, with is pure heart of Love and acceptance) ……..Now trust me when I say, When someone Kills God’s kids, or even tries to kill them, HE IS indignant! He is Fired up! And he does have a plan for his own kind of vengeance against his enemies………..

So pardon me, if I don’t agree when someone says nobody should have guns, because some misuse them, and do bad things with them. There are thousands of stabbings every year, nobody takes all of our kitchen knives. There are thousands of rapes…………and men are still allowed to have…………well you know……

As the voice of wisdom pleads with us in Proverbs I plead with you now……..Cry out for wisdom, beg for it, search for it as hidden treasure ……

I know I wished I had done it sooner………after all the Pain I endured….And when I did, I found out so many things about what the Lord really meant, in his word. At one time, I thought God actually sent this pain (of rape) and many other horrible things that happened to “teach me a lesson” ……….

If that’s the way you believe, I feel sad for you. Let the Holy Spirit help you OUT Of this type of thinking. Amen Blessings to you all………

 

Laura Grace, author, Grace to the Rescue, Grace to Grow, Grace to Grow the study guide and Grace to Soar