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“Big Boy’s Don’t Cry” and other injustices we put on men…….(this is important)

This is something that I’ve seen for a long time, and it’s bothered me for a long time, as well. For years I have sought God on the subject of why people do things. I see there is a root cause for things (that happen) And that every action or belief system, whether it’s in our hearts or minds, it all begins with a seed. 

First of all, while men and women may be different (in most cases) the soul is the same. Hearts break, hurts are inflicted, and men are not born with some special immunity to pain. We must know this right? We have to know it! So why the persistence on teaching men they shouldn’t or don’t cry? Why the man up “buck up to the suds” thing that is put on MEN all the time (as if they were born with hearts that can’t be broken?) 

It’s the same reason women get abused or hurt or neglected…..ignorance! Now there is a big difference between Ignorance- and malice. If someone is not informed about something, we can educate them! But here’s the rub. The church goes to the world for answers (in the case of psychology) In most cases. Why? Because there is not a lot out there on the subject of healing the mind (or heart) for our men. And I will tell you something else……..We are TOO busy taking care of the church building and not busy enough taking care of the minds and hearts of the true temples …….WHICH IS US! 

I looked up scripture with one word: Wept. I was amazed how many came up (see below) and I also know Jesus wept. 

I believe when men refuse to cry or are stopped from the grieving process (because of this man up, buck up to the suds thing) They wind up with other issues. Unresolved hurt leads to anger. Have you ever noticed 9 times out of 10 in a hurtful situation men get angry, while women cry? How is anger better than crying? (I ask!) and then we praise them for getting angry (and telling people off) And this leads to self righteous attitudes and pride.

“I’m proud of you honey” for telling off that Person who hurt me (she says or they say) and so now, not only is the man not healed (in his soul) but we have more hurt people- who have been bitten by the dog that was sent to chase them off!  Men? Come on you know better! You KNOW in your heart it’s okay with God if you cry. But society? They tell another story. Instead of listening to me, take a few min and read the scripture below. You will see men who wept. Jesus wept. And not always because someone died. 

Someone dying WHILE THEY LIVE is a reason to weep. Sin is something to weep over as it says in Lamentations “Oh that my eyes were a river of tears…..” (because of the suffering of my people). Weeping is good.

It’s a type of prayer when it’s directed toward God. He “hears our tears” ……so to speak. 

I Hope this helps you somehow. “Big Boys’ Don’t Cry?” It’s a LIE! satan knows mean with open hearts toward God that are capable of tears are powerful in his hands! No wonder he sent such a tremendous lie for the whole world to repeat and believe. -Laura Grace 

Scripture:

 

 

Genesis 33:4

But Esau ran to meet him, and embraced him, and fell on his neck and kissed him, and they wept.

Genesis 43:30

Now his heart yearned for his brother; so Joseph made haste and sought somewhere to weep. And he went into his chamber and wept there.

Genesis 45:14

Then he fell on his brother Benjamin’s neck and wept, and Benjamin wept on his neck.

Genesis 45:15

Moreover he kissed all his brothers and wept over them, and after that his brothers talked with him.

Genesis 46:29

So Joseph made ready his chariot and went up to Goshen to meet his father Israel; and he presented himself to him, and fell on his neck and wept on his neck a good while.

Genesis 50:1

Then Joseph fell on his father’s face, and wept over him, and kissed him.

Genesis 50:17

‘Thus you shall say to Joseph: “I beg you, please forgive the trespass of your brothers and their sin; for they did evil to you.”’ Now, please, forgive the trespass of the servants of the God of your father.” And Joseph wept when they spoke to him.

Numbers 14:1

Israel Refuses to Enter Canaan ] So all the congregation lifted up their voices and cried, and the people wept that night.

Judges 2:4

So it was, when the Angel of the Lord spoke these words to all the children of Israel, that the people lifted up their voices and wept.

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Judges 20:23

Then the children of Israel went up and wept before the Lord until evening, and asked counsel of the Lord, saying, “Shall I again draw near for battle against the children of my brother Benjamin?” And the Lord said, “Go up against him.”

 

 

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Shhh!! The Stuff Nobody wants to talk about Part 1: Political & Religious Correctness

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shh“Here We Go Sports Fans! The Religiously Correct VS The Rabble Rousers! Going Head to Head…..TONIGHT ON DU U C ! Later the Conservative Giants will take on the young know-it-all-liberals, Stay Tuned!”  Continue reading “Shhh!! The Stuff Nobody wants to talk about Part 1: Political & Religious Correctness”

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Getting the gunk out!

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It’s funny how we all know we should get the Junk (or Gunk) out of our lungs when we are sick, or we need to clean the house (because we can’t see the treasure, for all the clutter) and it’s just so obvious to us, but not always so with our soul realm! 

It’s funny, how everyone thinks it’s awesome when we get physically healthy, but not so interested in becoming spiritually healthy. 

Anger, malice, grudges, un-forgiveness, Pride, smugness, and yes even the vanity of thinking ourselves “oh so wise” in our own opinions…….

All these (and more) rob us of finding our way in Jesus, to see what more he has to teach us today. We all want to graduate, (finally) to say we’ve arrived! With God we never do arrive. Not until we get to heaven. There is always more to learn from him!

And notice I said “from Him.” Come, Follow me, means Follow Him! (not every wind of doctrine that blows my way) 🙂 

OH Father, continually remove the leaven of sin from my life. Help me to share what i do know confidently, while learning still from you, forever and ever, Amen! Help me stay teachable always, even if you give the opportunity to share what is real in my heart. If I ever start becoming a pharisee or even like one, Spank me! Cut me off at the pass! Take me aside and deal with me Father! I pray for your discipline continuously in Jesus’ name. amen. And please Father, remove the gunk and junk from my soul! deliver me From THIS evil, the evil of old hurts, wounds, old grudges. all that JUNK! In Jesus’ name we pray. 

Amen!  -Laura Grace PS; Praying like this, is a great way to love yourself! 🙂 Amen! 

COL 2: 20 “Therefore, if you died with Christ from the basic principles of the world, why, as though living in the world, do you subject yourselves to regulations— 21 “Do not touch, do not taste, do not handle,” 22 which all concern things which perish with the using—according to the commandments and doctrines of men? 23 These things indeed have an appearance of wisdom in self-imposed religion, false humility, and neglect of the body, but are of no value against the indulgence of the flesh.”

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Pride and Envy ..the story of Joseph and a little more insight on Him……

Genesis 37 (the story of Joseph) You know, there is more to this story too (other than Just Jealousy, or envy). They were afraid of him ruling over them……..

“Let’s throw him in a pit” they said, and see what becomes of his dreams……” 

Wow. Talk about a great family! Very loving, and Kind, eh? So Joseph had a vision (and dream) from the Lord, he spoke about it, and his brothers threw him in a pit. Left him to die, didn’t even care if they ever saw him again. Wow. 

And did God punish them for this behavior? Joseph WAS God’s chosen, you know? One would think God would have went after the with a vengeance……

But instead, he shaped Joseph more, watched over Him, Protected him, helped him stay sane. Then his day came ….

Turns out the calling was to serve not to rule over them with an iron fist (as they feared) ……and believe Me Joseph did not mince words when they had to come to him for help either….He said “What you meant for evil” .………..God turned out for Good (Paraphrased) and thus we have, the comparison to Romans Chapter 8 (New Testament). So what I learned from Joseph is #1 Stay Merciful #2 Stay Kind #4 Forgive them #5 Grow anyway and develop in God ……

AND forgive does not mean “you have to forget” ………

And sometimes God’s “vengeance” is not what we think it will be……….

The brothers had to come to him, acknowledge he was chosen…In order to be FED. 

Laura Grace Author, minister, and your companion in the Preaching of the Gospel of Christ 

body of christ · edification · encouragement · seasons · the power of encouragement · Uncategorized

A season of “What I see” By Laura grace

This is going to be a season of “What I see” and God is going to cause me to speak into people’s lives “what I see” that God is developing, or what He has placed there or what he is doing or about to do ….in someone’s life. So I am praying today. This will be a season of him strengthening what is weak, edifying and building up that which seems to be hanging down ……He is going to encourage many, through me, and use me in this manner. You may consider this a proclamation! For it will come to pass….

 

amen. Laura Grace

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The power of Encouragement….. Worth it’s weight in Gold………

I don’t think a lot of people realize the struggle that occurs, in the fight to have a Passionate life. As Christians we so often fill our world with platitudes. “I’ll pray for you” we say (I say it often) and I really do, however……

There are just days when none of it really seems to help. Not that we aren’t grateful (for prayer) but when we’re still enduring the pain of some crushing blow, a huge disappointment, a tidal wave of fear wondering if anything is ever going to change…..

At that moment sometimes we just need a hug. A listening ear. Someone to say “It’s going to be okay and, by the way “I believe in you.”

Looking back on my life, I think about all the wonderful things I have experienced, fine dinners out at times, Lovely times looking at the moon, the stars, the beauty of nature…….

Times of abundance when the bills were paid and I actually got to go somewhere “cool”…

But you know what? I don’t know about you, but I treasure most the times when I was at my darkest hour, my lowest point, My “Worst day ever” and someone said, “I believe in you” “You’re going to make it” ………”Better days are ahead”……

Or like a friend said to me “I’m not going to quit, let’s not quit” ……….

Ah the power of affirmation………oh the treasures of the heart when someone speaks life to you and chooses not to do you in with a big shovel full of criticism…..

Love you Lots my Friends! You know who you are! -Laura Grace