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Scream therapy! With Jesus……

I remember the first time I read the scripture in Colossians: 

Colossians 3:8 But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth. 
Another version says “rid yourself’ of anger. 
Once I asked Him,  “how do I rid myself of anger?” I had read how stuffing things and just denying yourself the right to be anger can lead to physical problems (and it really can) so  many ailments have been linked to “stuffed feelings” so that’s really not the answer……..
Let’s face it we face injustice sometimes and it can be horrendous. In my case I was pretty young when the mountain of injustices just seemed to “add up.” 
It’s unjust to be abused, lied to, and to have people you count on to love you give you little pat answers when you are suffering, and are in pain. It’s unjust to have your spouse lie to you time and time again. People tell me just “let the past go” …..
to which I say NO there are people who need help out there! And my stories and testimonies will help them! I know this to be true. 
The real point is, if you have ever had a situation so unjust it about sent you into a rage, and you found yourself taking it out on others………
a good solution for that is to just get in a quiet place somewhere and say okay …….
JESUS YOU SAID one of your names is counsellor……
I took him literally on this one. what safer place than with God to let it all out? 
ME: “It’s not fair Father” I don’t know if I can take this anymore! I want to give it to you but I don’t know how! Father I’m scared! I am so angry! I don’t want you to kill anyone for me but I do want justice! Sometimes it seems like you don’t even care!!” 
You can always take the mask off with God (and you should) as he already knows what you are thinking, how you are feeling, and what to do about it. I wouldn’t recommend taking off your mask in front of others unless he leads you to do so. 
People can be very judgemental, harsh, and I don’t care how many laws they make, only God can teach a heart to be kinder and more like him (by his Spirit) so …..
Yep, do some scream therapy if you feel the top of your head might just blow off your body if you don’t get some relief. Drinking drugs and all that is a trap which helps for a moment (it seems) but has no lasting effect. Killing someone will land you in Jail. Holding it all in will give you physical problems like ulcers and the like! 
So Just go for a drive! Yell until your throat hurts if you have to. Cry a river of tears but when it’s all done………..don’t forget to ask Jesus for the solution and start with what do you want me to do? (my wise advice for today) 
with Love and blessings –
Laura Grace 
PS God knows the real solution to the problem. Truly He does!
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Are you the Storm? Causing some structural damage? A word on this….

LIGHTHOUSE AND STORM.jpg Storms. We Just had one last night. 

Thankfully there was no damage, but I was thinking this morning about the damage that gets done sometimes by emotional storms. 

The weather report said, “This storm has been known to rip down trees, damage siding, and cause structural damage.” Wouldn’t it be great if we understood the damage we can cause just because we had to have this “fit of rage” that seemed important at the time? 

I remember well this time I was so emotionally distraught and upset over my ex, who had lied to me, lied again and lied again. This was after promises not to do that ever again and great expressions of how much he loved me.

Anyway, I had a fit of rage, threw a coffee cup at the wall, and scared my daughter half to death. She was crying and her whole world was being shaken and ripped apart, just because I let my emotions and temper get out of hand. 

I”m not proud of that moment, or a few others I’ve had. I do remember that day, I decided I was going to work on myself, and stop obsessing about changing someone else’s behavior. I realized right then, “dear God, this child is looking at me for guidance, and look what I have done!” I was convicted! Be a better example, and practice what you say,” is what I heard from deep within myself. I think it was God as he has all the good ideas, I usually don’t have any, all by myself. 

That was a lot of years ago. Sometimes if I am not careful, and get to looking at what others are doing rather than going to the mirror every day to look at myself (with God’s great assistance) I am still prone to getting all upset at others………

Someone is always watching. OH FATHER we pray: “Let our actions speak good things! Let our actions speak well of us and Glorify you Father! Keep us close to your heart! Remind us daily not to allow pockets of anger to get out of control to the point where we hurt a person with our wicked tongue! deliver us from THIS evil …

the evil of just saying whatever pops in to our pea brains! IN Jesus’ name! Amen”

Storms. They can do a lot of damage. Amen? “Father where we’ve done that forgive us, and help us to be bringers of peace (and light) and not a storm, causing damage and harm to others, and what they are trying to build. Amen”   

Colossians 3:8
But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth.

 

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Agreement? Is it necessary?

Agreement! When I was talking about relationships, in Grace to Grow, I mentioned what a struggle relationships can be, at times. I wasn’t kidding. If we stop and think about it, the main problem in marriages, friendships, and relationships of any kind is not “money problems’ as the claim, but agreeing or disagreeing how to spend it. It’s not so much “stress from a job” but agreement (or disagreement) on how to handle it. 

I remember when I first got with Tim, there were so many things we did not agree on, it simply amazed me! But, we did agree on the main thing. The main thing is, What are our core beliefs, what are our goals, and where are we going? What do we both want? 

So many churches have split and split again over issues (that they could not agree on!).  You know, we can agree with our spouse we are going to a destination. We may not eat the same foods, but we can discuss and hopefully agree on the same restaurant. Amos 3:3 says “How can two walk together, unless they agree?” Good question!

We don’t have to agree about everything. What we wear, our taste in music, certainly many things to not require agreement, UNLESS we are doing those things as a team. if we have one cup of flour and can’t agree what to make with it (pancakes, biscuits, or?)

We might have a problem. We can defer to the other (out of love) but after a time, the injustice will be in our faces. We may feel “it’s our turn to pick” and by golly, I want pancakes today! Agreement is important.

Really, how can we walk together, unless we agree? We need to remember, even in the early church world, they did not always agree on what needed to happen (or what needed to be done.) There were times The Lord said, “Don’t worry about them” You, follow me! Walk on! Your anointing carries you into your destiny…………….

And there will come a time you will walk to that place alone, with God. Just remember with him, you are never alone. Remember to make peace with the situation, forgiving those who did not seem to agree with you or maybe refused to agree with you! There are times we take the narrow path, don’t let it shake you (Good words, hard to do) when you find yourself on this narrow path (with God) and trust in His re-assuring Spirit that tells you “yes, you are on the right path right now.” Have Courage! Take Heart! Where God guides you, he will provide for you all you need to full fill your mission and calling, in Him. 

Peace love and blessings, Laura Grace 
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Steam pressure! Very important to let it out! Somehow- Someway…….& it’s OK!

steam.jpgGood afternoon! 

Once upon a time I helped with a boiler………so I learned all about them. My husband does that now. If the steam was not Released (DAILY) The thing would start blowing up pipes, and stuff would start breaking! Steam. It had to go somewhere, so there was no permanent damage to the pipes……

Holding things in………(not good for you) ……..

I”ve had a busy week. Very busy. Full blast running busy! But I am not too busy to share this little insight with you.  Listen, we all have to blow off steam sometimes. Vent. Say what is truly bugging us …….

We all need great friends we can confide in. Not to gossip, not to attack or hurt anyone but, sometimes we just need to vent. You know many times when I am frustrated about a situation, if I can just say it out loud it helps me “sort out” what the real problem is! 

There is a scripture it says “RID YOURSELF OF ANGER” I used to cry out to God years ago so Where does it go and how do I rid myself of it Father?  Unless you are going to go crazy or have to get drunk, stoned, or kill someone, sooner or later, we all have days we need to say WHY? Why does it go this way? How come? what for? Why did they DO THAT ????????? (we cry) …..

We don’t need to have a public flogging on FB toward our enemies no, but we don’t just fold our hands and act like everything is groovy when it isn’t! Biggest piece of advice I can give you you can rant and rave (and cry and moan) and have your little fit but when it’s all over remember this “ACCEPT WHAT”  You can’t change COURAGE TO DO what you can PRAY FOR WISDOM to know the difference! Great Advice! 

Pray for people yes but at times? I go to God I do…and say LORD WHY? WHY Do they have to do this? .”OH LORD I am frustrated” Well maybe he is too! And agrees with you! But remember this too, we all have days we like to not feel so alone, to just know someone cares about our plight ……and says yeah man that was hard ……

Good for you for getting through it! And I will pray it gets better! There is a big difference between VENTING and Letting off steam (so the pipes don’t break) and living a life of complaining. So Don’t get mixed up about it. I know I once did…...

I so value those I can talk to. who just stay quiet, pray or have some empathy …..

but sometimes….it’s a very hard thing to find……

So where does anger go (into the air, just like steam) and then you keep on moving! 

CHOO CHOO CHOO (even trains let off steam) 

 

Love you lots! Laura Grace