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Relationships 5 “No More Drama not even for your mama” the dark underbelly of “Control” (Part 1)

Control vs influence conTROL VS INFLUENCE Jesus.jpg

 Have you ever had anyone come on your FB wall and argue, and argue, and argue (Until you finally have to delete them?) Because if you don’t, the message you are trying to get across is lost in a sea of debate? It reminds me of when we were kids, and played “king of the hill.” Whoever could push you off your stance on the mount “became King!” …..

Control: To direct a person or animal to behave a certain way. To have power over something. Authority: the power to or right to make decisions, or direct (It is given) 

See the difference? One is given. One is assumed. Stephen had authority given by God to speak. A mob of controllers silenced him because they were cut to the heart (conviction). Acts 7:54-59

What is it? If you’ve spent any time on the internet, You’ve probably experienced control. It’s the counterfeit of Authority. Jesus spoke as “one who had authority” He did not argue with people, or try to talk over top of them.

He didn’t whine about how intolerant people are. He found those who wanted to listen.

If you notice, Jesus didn’t talk about “his rights’  His Authority came from the Father in Heaven. He walked in it by simply “going about his Father’s business.”  (Luke 2:49).

His Authority was questioned in Matthew 21. (by the Pharisees). He wisely refused to answer them. He knew their tricks.

Control starts with fear. Not fear like Fear of snakes or bugs, but fear of conviction or being exposed. Sometimes fear of not beng “in power or in control (of that which they wish to control!) Fear of hearing the truth..(and having to make adjustments). 

It was control (in a mob mentality) that made them stone Stephen to death Acts 7:54-59.

Controlling people will often accuse you of being controlling. Here is the difference. You have authority over your house, your face book, your car, your “twitter account” and before all that, your mind, your will and your emotions. God gave you freedom (from the evil one) when he sent Jesus to the cross.

He spoiled all those powers and triumphed over them, “making a show of them” openly. (Col 2:15).

People may have different things they want control of (and to put a lid on things) but the motive is always the same. “I am in control.” Ever heard that expression,” I”ve got it all under control?” Yes, you have! You may have even said it! Controlling people will talk over the top of you, not let you get a word in edgewise, and will use all sorts of tactics to “shut you up.” Why? Because they don’t wish to hear you. If you put them in their place, they will often call you: “conrolling!” 

I pray Father in Jesus’ name as I consider and reveal about control (and where it comes from) you will help us all learn YOUR ways and not man’s ways about how to deal with this. I pray this Father “LET THERE BE LIGHT” In all areas of our souls, hearts, and minds that comes only from you Dear Father!”

In Jesus’ name “deliver us” from the evil one, cause us to escape his lies, which have been growing like weeds since that day he entered this earth. In Jesus’ name. (amen)

-stay tuned for part 2. Laura Grace control vs influence.png   Author, speaker, minister of the gospel of Jesus Christ 

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Scream therapy! With Jesus……

I remember the first time I read the scripture in Colossians: 

Colossians 3:8 But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth. 
Another version says “rid yourself’ of anger. 
Once I asked Him,  “how do I rid myself of anger?” I had read how stuffing things and just denying yourself the right to be anger can lead to physical problems (and it really can) so  many ailments have been linked to “stuffed feelings” so that’s really not the answer……..
Let’s face it we face injustice sometimes and it can be horrendous. In my case I was pretty young when the mountain of injustices just seemed to “add up.” 
It’s unjust to be abused, lied to, and to have people you count on to love you give you little pat answers when you are suffering, and are in pain. It’s unjust to have your spouse lie to you time and time again. People tell me just “let the past go” …..
to which I say NO there are people who need help out there! And my stories and testimonies will help them! I know this to be true. 
The real point is, if you have ever had a situation so unjust it about sent you into a rage, and you found yourself taking it out on others………
a good solution for that is to just get in a quiet place somewhere and say okay …….
JESUS YOU SAID one of your names is counsellor……
I took him literally on this one. what safer place than with God to let it all out? 
ME: “It’s not fair Father” I don’t know if I can take this anymore! I want to give it to you but I don’t know how! Father I’m scared! I am so angry! I don’t want you to kill anyone for me but I do want justice! Sometimes it seems like you don’t even care!!” 
You can always take the mask off with God (and you should) as he already knows what you are thinking, how you are feeling, and what to do about it. I wouldn’t recommend taking off your mask in front of others unless he leads you to do so. 
People can be very judgemental, harsh, and I don’t care how many laws they make, only God can teach a heart to be kinder and more like him (by his Spirit) so …..
Yep, do some scream therapy if you feel the top of your head might just blow off your body if you don’t get some relief. Drinking drugs and all that is a trap which helps for a moment (it seems) but has no lasting effect. Killing someone will land you in Jail. Holding it all in will give you physical problems like ulcers and the like! 
So Just go for a drive! Yell until your throat hurts if you have to. Cry a river of tears but when it’s all done………..don’t forget to ask Jesus for the solution and start with what do you want me to do? (my wise advice for today) 
with Love and blessings –
Laura Grace 
PS God knows the real solution to the problem. Truly He does!
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Are you the Storm? Causing some structural damage? A word on this….

LIGHTHOUSE AND STORM.jpg Storms. We Just had one last night. 

Thankfully there was no damage, but I was thinking this morning about the damage that gets done sometimes by emotional storms. 

The weather report said, “This storm has been known to rip down trees, damage siding, and cause structural damage.” Wouldn’t it be great if we understood the damage we can cause just because we had to have this “fit of rage” that seemed important at the time? 

I remember well this time I was so emotionally distraught and upset over my ex, who had lied to me, lied again and lied again. This was after promises not to do that ever again and great expressions of how much he loved me.

Anyway, I had a fit of rage, threw a coffee cup at the wall, and scared my daughter half to death. She was crying and her whole world was being shaken and ripped apart, just because I let my emotions and temper get out of hand. 

I”m not proud of that moment, or a few others I’ve had. I do remember that day, I decided I was going to work on myself, and stop obsessing about changing someone else’s behavior. I realized right then, “dear God, this child is looking at me for guidance, and look what I have done!” I was convicted! Be a better example, and practice what you say,” is what I heard from deep within myself. I think it was God as he has all the good ideas, I usually don’t have any, all by myself. 

That was a lot of years ago. Sometimes if I am not careful, and get to looking at what others are doing rather than going to the mirror every day to look at myself (with God’s great assistance) I am still prone to getting all upset at others………

Someone is always watching. OH FATHER we pray: “Let our actions speak good things! Let our actions speak well of us and Glorify you Father! Keep us close to your heart! Remind us daily not to allow pockets of anger to get out of control to the point where we hurt a person with our wicked tongue! deliver us from THIS evil …

the evil of just saying whatever pops in to our pea brains! IN Jesus’ name! Amen”

Storms. They can do a lot of damage. Amen? “Father where we’ve done that forgive us, and help us to be bringers of peace (and light) and not a storm, causing damage and harm to others, and what they are trying to build. Amen”   

Colossians 3:8
But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth.